Hi guys, so today I tested positive for HSV 2. I’m scarred, I don’t know how to tell my partner that I’ve been seeing for 4 months. I tested negative with blood work before I seen this guy. So could he of possibly gave this to me? How do I tell him?
i was just diagnosed a month ago and my doctor told me because I tested positive for a swab test and I was negative a year before for the blood test it was a good chance that it came from my boyfriend of three months. but he’s never had any signs or symptoms and he apologizes to me everyday for it. but it is what it is. I knew what I was doing by having unprotected sex with him. i told my boyfriend when I was tested for it because mine came from a tear and then he and I had oral sex and I enddd up with hsv 1 down there. he took it a lot better than I expected and he said okay well we’ll figure out how to live with it. telling him it came from him and that he should get tested was actually harder because I didn’t want him blaming himself for giving it to me. you just have to be open and honest about everything. tell him your concerns about him giving it to you and he should get tested anyway now that you have it. if he doesn’t accept you for it, then he isn’t worth your time and you’ll find someone who actually values you and respects you. i’m so sorry you have to go through this and I hope you’re feeling better. my first OB was the worst experience of my life. but just try to remain upbeat and positive about things. it’s just a skin condition. you can live a perfectly normal life with it. xoxo
Should I tell him in person, I feel terrible i feel like he won’t want to talk to me again. What should I say?
I texted my boyfriend and told him to call me because I had something to tell him that couldn’t wait and I told him over the phone but because I knew I wouldn’t see him for a week and i wanted him to know. just be honest. he should respect you for telling him and not keeping secrets
Hiya,
I tested positive almost a year ago now and i was seeing someone at the time (had been for about 3 months) and we were pretty serious but not official. I told him over the phone! because he knew i had been to the doctors. He was shocked - like i was when i got told- but once i explained a bit more about it to him, he was totally fine. Now we've been together a year! One semi good thing with herpes is that you can't tell who gave it to who i.e. did i get it from my boyfriend or did he get it from me? That means you can't accuse each other/ play the blame game. Its more likely for girls to catch it than for guys to catch it - apparently girls are more susceptible- but that doesn't mean you caught it from him, you could have caught it from someone else and it laid dormant. Also he may have caught it years ago and the symptoms lain dormant all this time. You just don't know. A year on from being told i have the HSV2 virus (but in my genitals) I can honestly say it never even crosses my mind. The discomfort and pain i experienced when i had the symptoms for the first time were almost unbearable but since then i've never had symptoms anywhere near that bad. It's flared up a few times but you just take the tablets and it's fine. I can honestly say that it doesn't affect me/my life in the slightest and me and my boyfriend often make jokes to each other about having it! The guy you are seeing should understand, make sure you tell him that it could have come from either of you, so it's not your fault!!!
Hope this helps! X