I have been on tablets now for about 6 weeks, my family don't know what struggles I have. My work know because my work was getting so bad, I was falling behind, and was not good. They were the ones that pushed me to going to the doctors. At home, my mum has MSA, my dad needs new knees and having one done next week, both our worried about it. I'm a carer for them. I can't tell them as mum would blame her self, dad would be up set. It can be so lonely when no knows what you are going through and how hard life is. It's hard to show normal, but I have to. I also think dad has a bit of depression, but like me won't say. We are a close family, but hide a lot of our feelings, maybe it's a way we are coping. My mum has gone from fit to wheelchair bound in 7 years, life expentcy is 7 to 9 years. We are all worried about the future. And don't know if I could handle it. There is just so much, work stressing me out, my nephew has a heart problem and will need open heart surgery. How can I get through without saying how I feel to them? I feel I'm weak, and should be able to cope. Others manage so why can't I?
I understand you keeping it from your family. You need to share it with someone though. Ring Samaritans, and chat with us on here.
Maybe it's best if you see a councillor who you can talk to do not feel guilty for being depressed you cannot help the way you feel you,have an awful lot going on in you're life right now no wonder you feel they way that you do you don't get a minute to yourself maybe that is the problem
I would suggest you go for a massage instead or reflexology for me it was all about relaxing the mind the more relaxed I am I can cope with my thoughts and they are not so overwhelming
Dear shar, I know life Must feel very hard for you as you have so many responsibilities, but you are worth and need looking after too, SEE your doctor, you don't need to tell anyone, you must be honest about how difficult it can be.... have you not got a CARERS CARER.. to luck after you ( we have one ) they can support you financially..... practically.... and very importantly emotionally, ask for information at your surgery,... have you any good friends who would come and spend an evening with you to keep you company,,... go to see your doctor, please... you CERTAINLY NEED MORE HELP THAN YOU ARE GETTING... I wish you so much luck and happiness you deserve, hugs TO YOU... DEIRDRE xxx
To Shar I am really sorry about suggesting you go for a massage it was sent by mistake it was for someone else I hope you can access the help Deirdre suggested
Hi you are trying to take too much on your shoulders so I am not surprised how you are feeliing. You are not superwoman you know who has to be strong for everyone else with no one to help you. I understand how you feel about telling your family but imagine how they would feel if they knew you had been shouldering all this yourself?
You are not weak - but you do have an awful lot to deal with. Have you looked into getting help with your parents? Perhaps one night a week or weekends so you can have a break? There is help out there and a good place to start might be your doctors. Can the rest of the family help out?
Depression isn't a weakness you know and it can happen to anyone anytime. It is actually strength to acknowledge it and seek help. You have taken the first steps in posting on here so take it now and run with it. Stay with us and we will help you all we can. Take care and get some help. x
Hi, after reading your comment, I see you have no personal time. We all need time out, time for our selves. Have a think about it, just a suggestion. Have a chat with your doctor and see if you can get support from the social services. I had a lot of help from them when i needed it for my mum. Because of both your parents need care at home, I'm sure you would get it. Yes you are worn down, working and trying to care for both parents. Worrying about your mum knowing how she has deteriated in the last 7 yrs and your dad with his knees and his health.Go to your GP and pour your heart out to them, say how you feel and your concerns for your parents and say you need HELP