Hello everyone, I came across this forum today and it has made me feel a little better. I'm going thru a lot right now, I had a pregnancy and as I was doing the abortion process, I was diagnosed with GH. The abortion was the best thing I did do to the fact that this was going to affect my baby. In other words, I had my outbreak and I was diagnosed on Saturday and I started taking the antibiotics, everything hurts, when I walk, when I sit, when I kneel. It's horrible, it burns so much when I pee. I got this cold sore on my lip and it looks so gross, I'm so disgusted with myself. I hate that I put myself in this position and that I might have infected my boyfriend as well. Every time I feel pain, I feel like crying. Every time I pee, I cry. This is so horrible, I hope I can learn to live with this. If there is any advice or any tips to feel better, I would appreciate it dearly. This isn't easy.
Well first I'm very sorry to hear what you're going through, but this will pass.
Do not blame yourself, how do you know he didn't give it to you? Do you know what type it is yet? Sounds like it may be HSV 1 from oral sex, since you're breaking out on your mouth at T same time.
Not sure where you're located, but buy bactine spray to numb your parts. Areas that hurt and get friction or in the way if the stream of urine, apply Vaseline heavily. Start soaking in Epsom salt baths as long as possible and for as long as symptoms last.
Sitting in a shallow bath to urinate will help as well.
I think that going to a support forum that is owned, operated and managed by someone w herpes and all the moderators have herpes as well and counsel, is your best bet to get the emotional support you need. Google H Opportunity.
Hang in there, it does get better and the pain will go away. Contact me anytime you need to.
Hi, how are you? Thank you for replying!
Well he's getting tested tomorrow, and I don't know which type it is yet. But either way I don't think there's a way of knowing who gave it to who, we've both had past relationships. I'm located in Florida, I will try to find the spray. I have a question, for the Epsom salt baths, should I use warm water or cold water?
I'm glad I've found this forum, honestly I still feel like I shouldn't have put myself in this position, I could've avoided it and it's going to take me some time to accept it. But with the help of this forum and the help of my close ones, I should be fine.
Thank you for your support and time.
Warm/hot. Whatever your preference is. I used Luke warm today, because I live in the same state and I can't stand baths that are hot in this heat.
If you are having a bad OB, it is likely your primary. Not sure of you took a blood test or just swab, but a negative blood test would be indicative of a new infection and a positive one, would mean you've had it for at least four months... Thay goes for your bf as well.
But like I said earlier, you got an OB on your lip too, so it came from oral sex.
I always tell people that getting herpes is going through a grieving process and you will come to a place of acceptance, just be patient. It's hard to start healing emotionally, until the pain goes away and I know it can feel like it never will, but it will... I promise.
As for saying you should have neevr put yourself in that position. We all put ourselves at risk every time we have sex. You didn't do anything to make you deserve getting this. We are living beings and that means that we pick up a host of viruses w us for life along the way. Did you know there are 8 human herpes viruses and most we get as babies or kids and have no idea, but they may dormant in us (hopefully) for life and don't do too much harm? Chicken pox as a kid? Herpes. The missing disease mono? Herpes. By the time we are adults, we have about 3-6 t of them at some point. Dogs, cats, monkeys, etc all have their version of the herpes virus, it us just a part of being a living being on this earth.
1 in 4 females has genital herpes in the US and 1-8 men have it. Those genital herpes statistics only account for those w HSV 2 genital infection and do not account for those w HSV 1 on their genitals, which 50% of all new cases is from oral sex, so that number is a lot higher than 1-4. So combining the sexes it us 1 in 5. Whenever you're in a place full of peope, start counting 1234H, 1234H, etc in your head. You are not alone in the slightest. I have 6 gfs w it and two guy friends w it. That's 8 people right there, how many more have it, don't know it or just haven't told me.
Be patient w yourself, this is a normal part of the grieving process