Hi guys I'm 3 week post hip replacement tomorrow. I'm so low and tearful is this normal ? I feel I'm going mad.
I went through this as well round the second week post op!!! Once I was able to stop the pain meds things got a lot better for me. Things will get better!!!
jeannette
Totally. It seems to be around 2-4 weeks, it goes pass
Hi Carol
so sorry to hear that ,I know exactly what you mean. I too was very emotional for several weeks after my hip operation, it just suddenly came over me from no where. I cried buckets . Think it's partly due to all the pre stress and worry of the operation.followed by the relief it's done ,followed by not being able to do the things you want to . So frustrating. Possibly the drugs too.
It does get better ,I am now nearly 8 weeks post op and cry much less now.
It will get better . But if you do feel teary have a good cry ,you will feel a bit better afterwards. This really is normal .
Send hugs fellow hippy friend
Thankyou so much. I feel so isolated as well haven't been to work for 3 months already. I guess I know it's normal but it helps to know I'm not alone. . X
Thankyou Jeannette.
I'm really sorry that you are feeling so down, I think probably everyone feels a bit fed up at times. It's v tiring post op, you can't do much, your body is aching. I also think the weather doesn't help, dark mornings, dark evenings, gloomy days, it can be a very depressing time of year. I was lucky, had my op back in July, when the days were long and mainly sunny! You said you felt a bit isolated, could you get out, or invite a friend around? It used to really cheer me up when someone had been to visit. Things will start to improve, as you start to feel better. I wish you well with your recovery.
O Carol don't be crying ,we're allowed to cry after
what we have been through it's all part of the
heeling I remember crying for England it will pass
I'm five months now and this pain free world is
WONDERFUL plenty of rest eat well and keep
healing.Much love xx😱🙋
Yep, me too ! Cried loads and had temper tantrums - felt better afterwards 😂 Try and get as much reset as you can, Spring will soon be here. Lxxx
Most definitely!! I was so depressed.....I cried every day. Lasted for about a couple of months. I still cry but it has gotten better as I continue to heal. It's been a slow process for me I get discouraged but I try to see the improvements how little they may be. Praying helps a lot. Hope you feel better. Hugs, 🤗🤗. LD
I know exactly the feeling been there a couple of times it can drive us a bit nuts with all the constant things to remember thru recovery. 👀
THR is major surgery and sometime our meds and the stress from the surgery can be twice as hard on us. Many react with depression and anxiety
as we start to heel and when finally off pain meds this will in most cases will resolve itself. In the mean time you cauld discuss this with your doctor. ask for antidepressants 👍 Depression can slow down the heeling process.
My my best solution is drinking 🍶protein shakes 2 every day as our bodies need extra calories to heel & eating well. Sometimes vitamins are needed from protein shakes as the body strips our natural vitamins to heel. Protein shakes made me feel so much better. Best to consult your dr first he knows ur health history and interactions with any supplements you may need.
Many doctors DONOT consider depression as part of the protocol when pre op tests and information is discussed. It should be part of the process and many have this the first few weeks. It is very hard emotionally and physically to cope with so many things at once as the many protocols with recovery can be overwhelming.🌪
No one is perfect. That's why pencils have erasers.😊
Many heeling blessings sent your way!👼🏼
Hopexxx
I am almost 4 weeks post op from a revision and I have to say YES it is totally normal! I have been an emotional roller coaster! It has helped getting out and doing a bit of Christmas shopping. Sleeping still sucks! I finally started sleeping on my stomach, my PT therapist told me that was good because it stretches a tendon that needs to be stretched.
Sending positive thoughts to you!
I went trough 2rd and 4 weeks. Thats normal. I feel hoples ,down
It will get better . Take care
Hug Madla
Hi Carol
There are two main types of depression. One type is a depression for which there is really no obvious cause. The other is the one where there is an obvious cause! And this is just the latter. Absolutely everyone in the world gets this kind of depression sometime. It's utterly normal. You didn't get a hip replacement because the surgeon fancied trying out his technique! You needed it and that means you have been living with c**p in your life for some time now. Then you had this enormous surgery that has taken a toll. And now you have the recovery to deal with. All of that is enough to have earned a little depression!!! Feeling down like that is actually ok. It's allowed. There is nothing insane about it. So there's nothing much to worry about there - you aren't going mad.
I notice that you said that you've been off work for three months, but are only 3 weeks post op - so there's been a big gap in your life. Work fulfills a function for many people, and feeling "out of it" may have contributed to how you feel. Do you have family and/or friends around you? Is it possible that you may be feeling a little isolated because your normal world is upside down right now, and Christmas can exacerbate that.
I'm not a great advocate of anti-depressants. They have their place, but I think they can be used too easily to deal with situations that don't warrant them. We live lives are sometimes depressing - it's ok to acknowledge that and allow ourselves a bit of time to wallow. There's actually plenty of evidence that it's good for us - in moderation. It's just a normal part of the human experience.
Are there things that might divert you when you feel you have too much time on your hands and feel that the low feeling is too much. I absolutely love "match three" games for utterly mindless absorption! And colouring books! For me it needs to be something that just slows down my brain.
Just remember, in a short time you will be cartwheeling down the corridors, with your nice shiny new hip. Your future is bright... and now is the time to start planning it out. What can you do now with that hip, that you couldn't do before? Where is it going to take you? There are new opportunities out there to be grabbed. And you are going to make the most of them, aren't you? So... not a lot to feel down about? It's just a bad "now", not a bad "forever"...
Take care of yourself - and if all else fails, splurge on something hideously luxurious and totally self-indulgent! You couldn't help but feel smug about yourself then!!!!
Normal I can assure you we all have a few bad days here and there.... so just let it all out... you have been through alot and the body and brain are drained..
yes, it is normal...all of that anesthesia that hascto work out, all of the narcotics, the pain, the swelling, the frustration at how slowly things are progressing...
So, dry your tears because this time next year you may de a little soft shoe. Even early next year you will ferl a whole lot better.
Have you given yourself an awesome facial, a manicure to die for....
hi carol,
checking in with you and hope you feel better ...
we all agree that this is "normal" ...Our whole body and mind is out of whack - she has gone through a brutal, invasive surgery where joint was forcefully removed and replaced ... she is mournig the part that was removed and trying to accept the new prothesis -
just go with it, darling ... it is okay ... be gentle to yourself ..
big warm hug
renee
p.s. you are not alone anymore - so come here any time okay ..
Totally normal Carol, even for us big strong guys.
See my website, "Hippy Humour" in the "Hints and Tips" page for more candid thoughts on what we go through in this recovery.
Graham
Hi carol
Your not going mad this is normal my moods were up and down especially cause l new l was getting my other hip replaced as soon as l was ready which was 8 weeks after 1st. So my recovery was longer l was stuck at home and lost all my confidence and felt horrible. And to top it off after my 2 hips were replaced l found out l had OA in both knees and they needed replaced. So in 1 year l had 2 hip replacements and 1 knee so l got really low. I was just a normal 42 uear old that worked full time then suddemly mu life was upside down l was off work for a year. I did go mad and decided l had to have a break from surgery so l am back working part time at the moment trying to get my confidence back but still know l have my other knee to get done. But l am getting there and will hold of for as long as l can for other knee as l just felt like a recluce. So its normal to get low at times but it will pass as you get better.
Laura xj
Hi Carol, so sorry you're feeling this way. I am too (11 days post op), and people's comments have really cheered me up, as well as the knowledge that others have been through the same.
I think for me it's a combination of not amazing family support emotionally (but good support from friends), not being able to drive or get out, hating the walk from my house (busy main road but no other option), and just generally the discomfort, pain, and trying to work within all the restrictions. I was reasonably active up to the op within my limits and the enforced inactivity has really hit me hard.
Would work a bit but I can't sit for a long time.
I think it all combines to bring you to a dark place, and, as another poster said, it's never taken into account in all the post-op instructions. I plan to watch a few funny movies, read loads of good books and just try and do one thing at a time.
Hope you'll be feeling better soon...