Hi, So lately I feel really sad. Been fighting anxiety for 2 years now and it had me quit my school, study and I lost a lot of my social network. I'm on the road to start working again. I got 3 job applications for this month. I really look up to it, because I didn't do a job or study for 2 years, so the threshold is really high. It's work where I don't get paid for, it's pure to build up rhythm and I will get guidance from a supervisor. The goal is to get me ready for a paid job or study. I'm 'happy' that I at least give it a try. I know it will be necessary to get me to the next steps. Its just the feeling that I been locked up by myself which makes me so sad. I don't have much fun in my life now. It feels like I never can be a free person. I said this to my psychologist, but she didnt said anything helpful actually. I want to explore life, but I cant. My self image is low. Don't really feel like I will get a relationship and stuff. I feel like I will be always alone and never gonna get the change to explore my life. If I feel well, I will travel the world, but anxiety and depression doesn't let me. I'm only 19 years old and I feel so miserable:S Never been really happy in my life though, also before my high anxiety. Ive been abused mentally and psychically at home in the past and that doesn't help me either, although I did EMDR therapy for it which helped a bit. I take fluoxetine 10mg to lower my anxiety. Can someone give me advice?
sorry you are going through this. but I sense in your writing that you are someone who truly wants good things to happen
in your life. you are just feeling stuck right now. youre not a quitter. I love your attitude and be proud of yourself for pressing through these preparations for your future!
yes,before anyone gets in a relationship, its important to get ourselves in a good place emotionally, mentally, etc . you have plenty of time at your age, no rush. you come first now. Traveling the world can be a future goal!
Write out your goals in life and look at them often! SOME PEOPLE HAVE A GOAL BOARD. The more you look at it, the more your brain believes it. you can put pictures of things you want to accomplish or do, etc job, travel, relationship,…
remember, whatever we think WILL EXPAND! WHETHER its positive or negative. YOU ARE IN TOTAL CONTROL.
its important to have the right counselor who really helps you manage this and who you feel really listens to you. you can always try someone else.
ALSO Drop words like " cant, never, etc.
I know how anxiety feels. but dont give it power. dont say its taken me over even though it feels that way. I now have a matter of fact attitude towards it. such as " Anxiety, I Can handle you. IM in control, etc" I WILL even laugh it off at times.
You can literally fool your brain.
There are great audio for never giving up done by navy seals called Team Never Quit. It would be great for you!
On you tube. look up the audio of david goggins. he had an awful childhood but overcame his past.
YOU can do this and live a good life. one step at a time. dont get discouraged if you get good and not so good days with anxiety, it gets better just keep pressing on! 