Anyone feeling depressed and anxiety during menopause
Yes! The mental impacts of menopause for some women can be absolutely devastating and debilitating! I have been going through perimenopause for over three years, and I feel like I have had every horrible mental symptom that there could be. I am lucky to have had such amazing support from my family and friends. I have been very real and candid with them about what I have been going through. Some women feel shame about the emotions that they are contending with, but there is nothing to be ashamed about. We didn’t ask for this to happen, and this isn’t us; it is something that is happening to us.
You haven’t provided much information about your situation, but if you would like to share more, I can hopefully provide you with some insights. If you wish to private message me, please feel free to do so. I will always respond:)
Bev xo
What has your experience been like?
It has been absolutely horrendous! I had no idea that anything could be this bad!! It has taken all of my strength and determination to get through this!
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I kno exactly what your goin throu,i’ve been to hell an back these last fee yrs with my mental health,depression with menopause has been soso bad. I’ve just been menopause clinic an hopefully she is going to sort me out! Doctor phoning me weds to try sort depression out! please message me if feel have to talk to someone cause i feel the same! Sending hugs…
My anxiety has been the worst part of it. Have you struggled with intrusive thoughts and feeling disconnected emotionally from others? I feel like when I’m not feeling good, I begin to think, what’s wrong with my life and tend to go back and doubt every decision that I have ever made. My confidence has also been hit hard. Does this sound familiar to either of you?
Thanks so much for your support! It is so great to have women on this forum who totally get it!! We all deserve medals for getting through this!!
Yes, I have most definitely struggled with intrusive thoughts and very bizarre thinking. To be honest, it has been nothing short of terrifying, at times. I have also felt disconnected from others and from my life. It has been so difficult to bear. I am lucky, though, to have a tremendous support system, and I never hid any of my feelings and thoughts from those who love me. No matter how awful my thoughts and emotions, I always shared them, without feeling any shame.
is it only me or there’s someone else who thinks they’re dying any time soon any slight pain i I think the worst the health anxiety is through the roof i miss my old self
Oh Betty I feel so terrible with health Anxiety its ruin my life .I am 61 and struggle every day always worried about something and think the worst .I feel trapped in my own head x Can’t stop crying at the moment .I have upset stomach everyday and thinking it’s something serious .God I hate this .
absolutely betty has been off the scale for me, like every new symptom i think is slowing killing me for nearly 11 months now its exhausting. i also have awful nervous tummy issues its one big vicious circle that doesnt want to end
Bev,
I have also been blessed with a few close people I could confide in for the’ “Am I crazy?” questions. Thank you for your honesty. It has definitely been really hard!
Yes! Have had the lowest mood this past week and horrendous anxiety - particularly bad in the morning for some reason. I’ve never been so emotional either, I keep crying and feeling sorry for myself (which I hate because I totally appreciate others are going through much worse). I don’t know how to dig myself out of this hole at the moment but am just hoping it’s another dip in the roller coaster and I will get through it. Hope you feel better soon x
It’s been a rough week for me. I’m 42 and this has been my life for almost the last three years. Just a roller coaster. I feel so disconnected. I actually have a wonderful life and I know it, but I just can’t seem to appreciate or enjoy it. Did any of you obsess about your marriage ( and think “maybe this is why I’m not happy”?) I love my husband; we’re not perfect, but I just feel so disconnected from him.
Bev, Could you expand on bizarre thinking…I think I’m there. It has been so horrible AND terrifying! How you found anything that helps? You can message me if you would like to… I so appreciate your feedback.
Yeah, I know how you feel. Its so frustrating because I can see that I am lucky in the life that I have but I struggle to actually enjoy it. Its like theres something missing but I dont know what. So then I wonder if I made the right choices and if I had done things differently would I be happier. Then other times I feel fine. I just seem to be in a slump at the moment. We will get through it but wow, its tough
Oh my! Exactly! Thank you so much! The thoughts leave me feeling guilty and ungrateful. Sometimes I’m fine, but other times I really struggle. Like last night, I bawled and just really felt confused. Then other times, I’m fine too.
Yeah, I’m exactly the same.This is just a crazy time of life x
I am suffering severely myself. my depression is debilitating and numbing. I have increased anxiety and panic attacks. I have severe health anxiety as well. I am in a constant fog. I feel like I am just a shell of myself if that makes sense. I see no light at the end of the tunnel. I question if this really can be all perimenopause hormones. what symptoms are you experiencing?
Over the course of my perimenopause, I have experienced exactly what you are experiencing: numbing depression, feeling like a zombie, feelings of terror and hopelessness. I also had scary, violent images that would appear, but the images are all gone now, thankfully. It has taken every ounce of my strength to continue. Thankfully, I have had massive support. I run my own business, and I kept working, and I think that choice, in part, saved me. It gave me a purpose, but it was painfully difficult.
My heart goes out to you, as I know the despair you are feeling. I promise you, though, that it will get better. This is a transition, so you will come out the other side. Guaranteed!