so i'm peri i having a rough time with it feeling unbalanced in my head & shoulder feels like i'm swaying half the time annoying when they come on beacuse this makes me worry more then there is the cold feet & hands joined by pins & needles in legs & hands then along the way jerking in sleep headaches in morning hot sweats only at night but worse thing is not being able switch of to sleep because swaying in my head then the jerking wakes me its horrible night after night, twitching in my legs really tired ,weak feeling & i'm always suffering with back ache i swear my mind is always on 1 thinking whats wrong with me nowhere near that girl i was b4 this started, being more bed bound cause ov all these horrible feelings..tried to ring a helpline just to make sure i wasnt going mentally crazy i really thought i'd be better off being sectioned because i cant cope my way of coping so far crying fits
hi diane i totally understand having a bad day today feeling just as you describe tired jelly buzzy legs headache off balance sore stomach & my back is so painful like a burning i cannot believe hormones can make us feel so ill sending a hug x
aw thank u, ano its all so draining when you have loads of the symptoms all at once!. frustration/ frustrated like you want to feel urself but have no control of whats happening to ur body every day now is winding me up & freaking me totally out..emotional wreck!
all i keep thinking is i’m never going to get back to work this is also making life harder for me just over thinking instead of trying to get better its like a vicious circle!..i hope most women can relate to this & give me some advice on coping xx
ive suffered really bad daily for about 7 months on my 3rd type of hrt but no improvement yet infact i think the headache is hrt induced! its my lower left burning back which is sending my health anxiety through the roof at the minute, i really want to take my daughter to the sales but im struggling to even get in the shower today just want to crawl back to bed x
wow ur 3rd attempt of hrt omg i’m hoping for my first attempt to work just started on the evorel patches you never think you’l have a rough time, my mum breezed thru it but she was in her late 50s b4 getting menopausal horrible aint it feeling guilty for not being able to do certain thing that we could do before do frustrating, i’ve been on auto pilot for 3 wks now hitting hard like you i havent been able to do much with my kids saddens me as its not their fault that mum feels so crappy really is just a case of getting thru the day now, ur not alone on that score i cant even seem to bring myself to get out of bed its like a safe place if that makes any sense x
the guilt is terrible ive 3 children 10, 15 & 18 so fortunately they are older so not as dependant, i dont work either there is absolutely no way i could feeling like this. i sat on the bedroom floor for an hour this morning mustering up the energy to have a shower, like you i just function to get through the day. im on evorel sequi & have just added an extra patch because they werent strong enough, fingers crossed we both feel relief soon xxx
how bad it makes us feel like trapped in way nobody could understand unless there going through it themselves i swear every day climbing the walls with my brain too least my two kids understand a little with them being teenagers but downside is i h8t them seeing me cry about 6 times & yh crossed fingers that these patches will work at some point only had mine on a day tho so got wks of torture a head in the mean time 
think i’l end up mentally ill b4 these crack in tho thats how bad my brain works over time
need to find out how peeps switch of there mind from it all even joined a few groups on fb but these are just going on about nature ways of solving it & just a case of hang in there easy said than done hey! xx
meant to of asked you how old r u ? are u going thru peri as i’m 43 & started early x
yes in peri very slight issues started about two years ago with achy joints but then 7 months ago hit me like a train! ive not long turned 46, i really hope you feel the benefit of the patch straight away a lot of women do, maybe i just dont absorb very well? have you tried meditation to calm your mind at bedtime? i was very sceptical but love it now you have to persevere with it though, find an app on your phone plug your earphones in & drift off to sleep. must admit it irritates me when people say go for a walk it helps but its so hard when you physically feel ill & anxious to even leave the house sometimes!
Hi , i have every thing u are going through , anxiety so high , get of to sleep only to jerk awake and feel like i cant breathe , its so scary , every night i get it , pains in my hips and back are awful , am 53 and been going through this for about 4 years , have high bp , and vertigo to add to this awful list , dont know if im coming or going most days , head weird , weird thoughts etc , list goes on and on !!!
I’m feeling very much the same with a whole load of symptoms including air hunger, stomach issues and upset tummy, hot flashes, chills, feeling weak, exhausted, nauseous, jelly legged, no motivation to do anything, lack of appetite. The list goes on.
I feel utterly hopeless and scared. Wish i could wave a wand over us all and make things better.
ano when you do try & get out its hard work u have an empty mind like lack of anything going in or out of it feeling weird like ur not all there!..draining day to day , i tried the music via headphones like u suggested no joy tried sleeping in a different position still no better so seems insomnia now driving myself round the twist too!..so yh i’m hoping these patches start cracking in soon & not be months ..so many things were missing out on because its got a grip of us! would love just to beable to smile again or even laugh but nope my body would rather just shut down completely & finding crying 12 times a day asking myself the same questions wots going on why cant i control my mind!..i wouldnt wish this condition on any1 thats gods honest truth..doesnt make it any easier that covid taking over!
hi karen the thoughts rolling around inside ya head not beable to think clearly omg seriously one of the most annoying things on the menopause list u get to point of doubting everything h8ting everything getting so annoyed at simple things then the thoughts of never getting better feeling trapped in i keep thinking i want to be sectioned or want to take my brain out & wash it keep going from frustration of crying fit to need to be hospitalized ..so for pins & needles i started taking b12 they calmed down slightly still get the jerking tho as for the vertigo asked a few peeps about this & really had no feed back there as clueless to it themselves if the vertigo when ur standing bending or just sitting does it affect your walking off balance?
me too would wave that wand like a fairy godmother & end the suffering of menopause to all, makes me gutted that i’m a women now said to my mum not had it easy l’ve had 2 miscarriages & pcos all my life now bloody early menopause with every symptom going 
give me break & now just found out i could be going thru this for yrs..sucks sucks sucks
im sorry the music didnt work have a look at insight timer on the app store but what works for one doesnt work for another, but lack of sleep is awful. im struggling on today also so tired & no motivation to do anything. just want to curl up till its all over including covid, you totally sum it up living a nightmare x
aw ano that feeling to well u’ve done really well as its not easiest thing to live with but ur stronger than u think, i give u credit because ur advice has really helped me so much i appreciated it a lot i’ve only had 3 months of it & i’m like a sad mess none of my friends have gone thru this yet & my female family membs breezed thru so i’ve basically had zero advice from anyone, i dont want to be bitching & moaning over it but when ur living in a total frustration nothing much more u can do but start looking for ur own answers & hope u get those answers or at least kno ur not on ur own! xx
thats a beautiful thing to say have tears in my eyes reading that, you are stronger than you know too we both need to remind ourselves! you bitch & moan away because unless youve been through it you dont understand how hard it is, keep posting on here because theres always someone who totally gets it xx
im not peri anymore haven’t had a period for 12mths but your not alone I’ve described menopause as a hell you don’t understand until your going through it!! so just remember your not going nuts!! Ive just started HRT and although fabulous for my intense hot flushes and other cycle type issues have eased im now dealing with leg cramps!! It just seems never ending!! So sending you love 
aww thanks tammie x
think its the worst worrying issue of the century when going thru it i’ve been like is that normal in menopause googled loads of stuff because u dont think menopause could cause so many issues with the body ,b4 i started the peri i was clueless just thought menopause was getting hot flushes & maybe a headache here & there mind blowing every step in to it tho especially when it hits you hard!
tammie i hope your leg cramps subside soon chick 
crossed x
true fact indeed i’m glad i come across this site now as it has helped me understand & settled some of my concerns & we all need that bit of peace of mind 