Let me give you all a little back story , I've been with my boyfriend for about two and a half months. We started having sex about a month ago , not smart I know , but we didn't use protection. I had a pregnancy scare and then I finally got my period , after that we had sex a couple time. Last Tuesday we tried to have sex and it was so painful I was crying. The next day I noticed little sores on my labia I thought it was from friction but then more popped up and it began to hurt and itch and I couldn't even wear pants. I decided to go to the doctor yesterday and the ER said it's most likely herpes. He's the only guy I've had sex with and he swears he is clean but I guess we will know in a week. I've already started anti viral meds but I'm still lingering to the hope that I may not have it. I'm so ashamed and scared of ever having sex again. I love him but he doesn't believe that I have herpes and I'm trying to tell him how small the chance is that I don't have it. I feel disgusted and haven't been able to talk to friends because they are judgmental and the stigma will get the best of them. I've been doing research for a week straight and I've come to find out a lot of stuff I didn't know about herpes. I guess what I'm trying to say is I'm so scared I'm praying I don't have herpes because for one my mom would be so very ashamed. I have to wait a week for my culture results and I'm just lingering onto the hope that it may not be herpes. Anyways can someone please give me advice ? What will stop the itching ? I need answers please help me I can't stop crying over this. I'm only 16 and I'm beautiful, smart , and an outgoing girl but now I feel like I've been ripped of the old me and somehow this virus now defines me. My boyfriend says it's not problem , he will stay with me and love me either way. But the thing is I GOT IT FROM HIM ! he's had 5 other partners besides me but all well over a year before we got together. Anyways idk if he's just saying this because he thinks I don't have herpes or if he really doesn't care about it. Please help me , I'm so lost.
It's him he may not of shown signs or symptoms. Also you are 16 you both will go on to have other relationships. If you did your research as you stated I am sure you have learned how common herpes is. Hold your head up
Sorry that you're going through this. A visual check from the er doc along with your symptoms does suggest it may very well be herpes. The culture however will be your answer. Did your bf perform oral on you during the time you two were active? Does your bf get cold sores? As far as the itching wear loose clothing or none as often as possible, keep the area clean and as dry as you can. You will get through this...I'm proud of you for doing your research. Hsv is extremely common and often overlooked.
If it is herpes, it's likely HSV1 from receiving oral sex, so he presumably carries the virus orally. Many people do, often without symptoms, so unknowingly.