Does anyone else just sit in this constant sickened state and miss their old life? I do this really badly all the time. I just cried and cried earlier cause all i could think about was 10 years ago when i never had any sickness, extreme fatigue, headaches, aching joints, sadness or anxiety.....i had a life to live. I could make appointments, go shopping, eat food, i looked healthy....now everyone looks at me like im an anorexic with depression. I hate this life now, i hate waking up every day cause its the same crap, i wake up tired, very nauseous, dizzy/lightheaded, my gut rolls and gurgles no matter how clean i try to eat, and i feel so trapped by this perimenopausal sickness! Major depression is nothing compared to this (i did have a depression period in my 20s it was nowhere near this debilitating) hell you take a pill with depression and for me it helped. I tried to take a pill with this perimenopause it never even put a dent in the hell i feel! i look at old pics of myself smiling and looking healthy....now i avoid having my pic taken. im sorry i just needed to vent, this is a never ending hell!!
Hi Brandy, I do find myself missing the real me, yes. You are not alone in this. I still believe the real me (and the real you) are in there somewhere, just screaming to get out. Otherwise we wouldn't be missing who we were.
Crying with you, honey. If I find something, anything, that helps even a little, I will let you know straight away.
I was just thinking earlier, how cruel that, if we were trying to conceive a child and hormones were the problem, doctors would be lining up to do blood tests and give us whatever we need in order to allow us to become Moms, and follow us through the whole journey, adjusting things as needed.
But, now that role is done and we're either raising the child or empty nesting, we apparently don't deserve the same care.
I mean, obviously it can be done, right? We do it to allow women to become pregnant all the time. With great success.
It makes me so angry.
Crying with you and praying for you. Holding you in my heart until we can get through this horror. Sara
Brandy,
No apology needed to vent :) I feel the same way...I'm still in peri for 7 1/2 years, I'll be 53 soon and still having periods along with all the stuff you mentioned. I'm sooooooooo sick of this. I used to have energy, do a lot of stuff, be happy, fit, you name it....this has been hell. I hope it gets better once I reach menopause. I get mixed messages from folks about what life is like after meno...some say it's better, some say it isn't.I used to be able to sleep well..now i have to "wind down" for an hour before bed, use a sleep mask, white noise, lavender, can't let the cat sleep in the room with me. Nothing is fun anymore. You are not alone in your agony! :(
yes!! all the time! the struggle is very real... It's overwhelmingly debilitating and tiring.. I keep telling myself that things can only get better, but every year a new symptom rears it's ugly head or an existing one is even worse if that's even at all possible.. Just know that you're not alone and others are also struggling and fighting the same battle...
Vent away Brandy! You are not alone! I find myself feeling the same way. I feel like I am just going through motions some days, but I try to take notice when I ,m having a good day or even a few good hours in a day. I'm hopeful that my old happy self is still with me, but is just in hiding while all this Peri is taking over. I'm also going through other life changes like empty nesting with my older kids moving out of state and my youngest leaving for college in a few days. Perimenopause is no party, but I figure if I could make it through the teenage hormones, I can get through this! Hang in there! hugs to you
I am so glad i didnt come across as a loony lol i am just having one of those days, its like day 4 in a row of feeling like i have constant morning sickness and can barely eat! I am so sick of this as im sure all you ladies are! I have gotten the same mix of some saying its gotten better but most say they see no difference. I must dont how much longer i can put up with it and the fake smiles for everyone so they think im having a "good" day. I have some insomnia days but most of the time im so tired and just want to sleep! i dont know about you but i feel like an 80 year old who gets periods still sometimes every other month or this last time it was 6 months!
I think we all feel like this but I have convinced myself I will be better then my old self..we must have dreams lol. I don't make plans anymore either because I never know how I will feel from day to day. hang in there and know you have us by your side. never apologize for how you feel, especially when you are venting to the sisterhood! hoping you have more good days then bad. sending hugs 💛💛💛
Your telling me about the new symptom popping up or an existing one getting worse. Im thinking enough already i call uncle, perimenopause you win! But it just keeps coming doesnt it. Thank you for the support i hate all you ladies are suffering like i am but it also helps to know that im not alone in this.
Hello, I just wanted to you to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel! I was there, were you are now! my words to you are, it does!!! get better!!! To describe how i felt was "The joy had went out of my life!!"🙄😥, I researched and tried!! all the remedies that were available, HRT, natural etc. i eventually tried acupuncture that had been recommended by a friend and i have to say it was the first thing to work and give me balance!! whether that was the treatment or i was coming near the end if peri i really dont know. i just want you to know that it does get better! there is a light!! hang in there and jusr be kind to yourself!! lots of love and hugs to you and anyone out there that is struggling!! 😘😘😘💕💕💕💕
Hi Sara.... the drs make a ton of money off helping us become mothers is why they are so willing to help, then when something like this happens to us there really isnt any money in it fir them so they dont care to help. I have yet to meet a dr who actually says "oh yes menopause is hell amd it doesnt matter if you are in your 30s the symptoms can hit like a ton if bricks and ruin your life!" All i get is well we can run tons of expensive tests on you, 41 is really too you g to be starting peri and oh yeah the symptoms you describe arent even menopause related. The worse part is i had 2 female drs say that to me. But if you do hear of anything that may help im all ears. Ive tried antidepressants, vitamins, those seasick wristbands, eating completely organic, cut out milk & dairy for a month, exercise, counseling, probiotics, progesterone creams.....nothing works except phenergan to take away the nausea but it doesnt help the other garbage
Thank you!! I considered acupuncture but i havent tried it yet. I hope I will be like you and it does get better after the periods quit for good. I am so thin and sick i dont know how im still able to walk around to be honest and it makes me so mad! But thanks for the kind words. om trying to hang in there, venting on here helps more than you sisters know!
Thanks for the hugs! Yep thats me too, i no longer set appts cause i never know how i will feel and where i live 25 mins from any town chances are i wont make it to my appts. Im very thankful to have found this website!
My youngest son is turning 14 next year and i find myself getting very sad that he will be moving out soon, my two other sons are already moved out and living their lives. I know they worry about me and i hate that more than anything. I have maybe one decent day every two weeks where i can eat normally and feel like my old self, but when the yuck comes back thats when i lose it and start crying cause i just want this to go away already so i can feel alive again. Its been 8 years total, but the past 3-4 years have been the worse and my periods are now very far out so im praying they will be stopping soon altogether
Ditto on feeling like an 80 year old! ;) as the matter a fact, my mother just turned 80 and I think I'm about on par with her. I have just about as much energy or vice versa. My 58 year old husband can run circles around me. I'm trying not to give up hope that this will be better one day.
take care my friend, sending you lots of love, hugs and soooooo much positivity that you will feel better!! 😘😘😘😘💕💕💕💕💕💗💞😁😁😁😁😛
Hi Brandi I have just posted my story. check it out I too am in a pickle. meno started 9yrs. am now 60 and still in a pickle. have tried everything. how old are u now. When peri start for u. I am in Australia. where are u living
I'm missing it too. I used to be able to work, do some errands and come home and cook.. Go to bed and wake up good or even refreshed, go to work, go out with friends after work, decorate the house, etc... anything went.. BUT now it's just dread and feel as my life is a mess. I have aniexty which is awful some days, I need to lose about 20 lbs, and I'm frustrated that I'm too tired to do anything and just want to stay home mostly. Tomorrow I have a wedding to go and I don't want to go as I feel really crummy.UGH Some say that it gets better so I'm hoping that's true-- I see a lot of active older people out and about.
yes Brandy, I totally agree..so much has changed..and while I am grateful for so much, in terms of healthy children, job I love, I am often sad for how I am feeing now, family members who have passed, the lower energy, not feeling or looking "good"...but I am so happy I am not alone, and that so many if you lovely ladies understand. Hang in there and know we are here!!
I see tons of people way older than me looking healthy and living life to the fullest and i wonder how are they doing it!? My mom never had any of this crap with her menopause. She had some depression and a little anxiety but she still functions perfectly well and looks healthy, she isnt on any hormones.
I will check out your story...mine started slowly about 8 years ago. It started first with me getting very nauseated either before or during my periods when i was 33 years old. I just assumed it was pmdd, then it progressively got worse and by the age of 38 i had hot flashes, skipping periods for 3 months at a time, insomnia, severe anxiety to the point of being housebound, headaches, very nauseated all of the time, and vomiting during periods when i have one, NO energy at all, dizziness and faint feelings....i just feel miserable like im dying every day. im now 41 and have periods every six months but the symptoms remain every day. i will suddenly get a "good" day free of symptoms...i cry with happy tears but then i have to go to bed and wake up sick all over again. This hardcore nausea has been going on for about 4 years now. i live in the US