Hi guys, ive suffered from anxiety since i was 16, ive just turned 21. Its been completely fine until i got my new Job (which is desk based) I currently worked in retail so it is a complete adjustment for me. I have now been in my new job for over 3 months and my anxiety still hasnt calmed down. Im still finding myself having to go to the toliets and cry because im feeling so anxious and this happens every day. I dread the thought of going in but force myself too. And because of this i am missing my old job terribly and i am even thinking of going back to my old job. But everyone around me is telling me to stick through it and it will pass but everyday seems to be getting harder. I also recently got engaged so me and my Fiancee are now looking into getting house so im feeling pressured into staying where i am so we can get a house. So i really dont know what to do, i am also currently on a waiting list for counselling. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Are you in the UK? I'm so confused on how your 9n a waiting list to see a therapist. In the us. You find one. If you have insurance and that therapist takes it you seem them if you like them and they are willing to work with you. If you don't have insurance then you just pay out of pocket or find one that does take your insurance.
Yes i am from the UK. We have to be put on a waiting list to see a thearpist.
Hi Naomi, I think the important question is what do you want to do? Is retail what you enjoy or would you prefer the office based job you have now, minus the anxiety? If it’s retail, then consider returning to it. If it’s the job in the office, then I would say try to stick it out. Is there someone who seems kind and approachable in the office? Maybe consider having a chat with them. Someone older and wiser may understand how daunting work can be for one so young. You’re in a different environment to that you are used to. If I was in that office I’d want to know so I could reassure you. At your age I went through a similar situation when i started a job in banking in London. It was a dog eat dog world that left me in tears at times but I was determined not to give in to a bunch of, something rhyming with bankers!!! Talk to your fiancée if you changed your job for financial reasons. I’m sure he’d hate to know just how unhappy you are. Do what makes you happy, life’s too short.
Why does the UK do that?
Because its a free service, and a lot of people use it so we have to wait to be seen
Hi Lynsey, i did really enjoy the retail environment. Thats what i tend to think a lot about when sitting at my desk. I have no idea if i would enjoy the desk job without the anxiety because thats all ive ever felt while being there. But so far im not enjoying it at all, i find myself getting bored just sitting down. I have talked about it with my Fiancee and he even offered to but the house on hold until i was settled with my job but i couldnt do that to him. I keep telling myself to just get on with it but it gets harder each day, i feel like ive lost my way with this new job. I also just dont feel like myself when im there, i feel out of place.
Please don’t trap yourself doing something you don’t enjoy. That’s not fair on you. It sounds like your fiancé is supportive and wants you to be happy, so don’t put yourself under pressure like this. You are so young, it’s important for you to live in the moment at your age and not be feeling like you are. Believe me, it’s better to be poor and happy that rich and sad! Plus retail has opportunities to advance within, so it’s not like there’s no money in it x
O ok I see. Are there any private ones you could see that offer a sliding scale?
Have you tried a focus at work...like something that can take your mind off of the anxiety...maybe try some herbal tea