My consuption alcohol is out of hand

General health and lifestyle
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Hello everyone,

This is the firt time I write about my trouble on a website.

I'm 28 years old. I have some troubles with alcohol since three years. I have lost my girlfriend because I'm unable to manage consuption, and I understand the descision of my girlfriend. She made the right descision because I just push her toward the bad side.

First of all, when I was student I never drunk any glass of alcohol. But my friends convince myself to try drunk. During a long time I had resisted to drunk. But, one day, I give in and take a drink. The party following this first gloss of alchohol, I drunk a little, but little by little I increase my consuption. And wihout become awart of that, I was already addicted to this drug (yes for me it's a drug as smoke, etc). At the moment, I was a relationship with my girlfriend, but quickly she said me to stop alcohol but I told her that it's wrong. My behavior quickly adrift toward my bad side. I've started to drink hidden until my girlfriend discovered the reality and took the decision to break our relationship.

Now, I'm alone, and I have any plan for get out of this mess. I'm afraid to join alcohol meeting of my city, because I'm afraind someone can recognise me. I ashame about my state. That's why I write today about my trouble.

Moreover, I almost lost my job, because my boss knows I drunk during my break lunch.

Today my consuption of alcohol is about 10 beers per day, at any time of the day (morning, midday, evening, etc).

And now I'm alone, and I don't know if I really want away from alochol. Because now I'm alone, I afraid to fell more alone without alcohol. Alcohol is like my best friend. I know that can sound a litte weird, but this is like this I'm feeling the things.

If you have any idea about how I can manage my trouble, please write me. Because sometimes I'm feeling like dying.

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hi, firstly you are very brave to open up about your problem, secondly don't feel so bad about you girlfreind leaving (within reason), as she clearly does notcaare enough to give you the support and help, the next stage is to say what you want and where do you want to be going, had a freind called JD and coke, lost everything in the process, i'm not saying it will be easy as still recovering myself, it is hard, but it's still your choice to take a drink or seek your doctor, who these days gets you help pretty quick

So don't give up there are people out there who do care, have been though some real bad times, but stand high, because they can say, i did it, i made it.

Life is your choice, to live to eat to drink to die, but think clear, these are your choices, it's not too late to have a future, i'm 35 have the onset of hardened arteries, i'm not too late, but one more drink may be all it takes, and thats the hard fact, i chose to live, after a hard and continues battle, I hope you do too and good luck.

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Hello Sylvain. I'm sorry to hear about your problems. You have done the right thing by seeking advice. Firstly, please recognise that you have already lost your girlfriend and almost your job too. Be very aware that you WILL lose more and more of the important things in your life if you don't deal with this alcohol problem.

You say that you are afraid that somebody will recognise you at an alcohol group meeting, just remember that people will recognise you as you get more and more out of control and begin to care a lot less if anybody sees you drunk and incapable.

It is not necessary to go to a group to get help, there are different ways to deal with the problem. You haven't mentioned which country you are in. It is likely that the best place for you to go first is to your own doctor. It sounds very much like you are physically dependent on alcohol and, if that is the case, it would be dangerous for you to try and stop drinking without medical help. Alcohol withdrawal symptoms can be very server and can even kill you. However, don't let that stop you seeking help to quit because continuing to drink heavily will also eventually kill you.

To see if you ARE dependent on alcohol, I would advise that you do the Severity of Alcohol Dependence questionnaire (SADQ) which was produced by the World Health Organisation (WHO) and will give you a good indication of your level of dependence.

After that, you need to seek help from either your GP or a confidential alcohol service (it doesn't have to be a group therapy thing if that worries you.)

Alcohol may seem like your best friend because it covers up your feelings and stops you feeling unhappy, in the short-term. In the longer term, it is your worst enemy because it will lose you all of your friends, your job, your health and maybe your life.

If you want to chat to me privately, send me a private message on here. I can probably give you better information if I know which country you are in.

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I meant 'alcohol withdrawal symptoms can be very SEVERE' Typo, sorry

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Hi Sylvia...

Please..... contact Paul there is help right here at UR finger tips.. It couldn't get any easier unless u r in complete denial... Which u don't sound like u r at all..... Help is just a click away. Isn't that what you r really asking for... This is help in the best way possible...this is UR chance to let this be a lost chapter in UR life and begin a new chapter .....

Contact Paul.... U will be glad u did.

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hi  i am sorry to read your troubles, i have been in your situation, it is not easy to get out, i went to my doctor asked for help(no begged) you cant do it alone , you have made the biggest step admit what you are, read every post on this site, you will see yourself, think possitive, try and do possitive,have you got any friends that will help you,you must seek medical help you cannot do this alone as hope4cure knows i was in a much worse situation than you, act now   my life is so much better now i am alcohol free  it is not a easy road, it is long and full of potholes swearve to avoid them, you can do this  i wish you so much luck 

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How to Quit Drinking Alcohol........

You're looking at this forum, which means you want to quit. That's the good news. The not-so-good news is that quitting is hard. It's a truth that is painful, and one shouldn't sugar-coat it. I never do if u read all my posts. The great news is that medical technology, integrated communities, and effective psychological counseling have made it easier than ever to quit. If you feel that you drink too much, there are many benefits of sobriety: preventing strokes, losing weight, avoiding hangovers, and reducing the likelihood of liver disease are only a few beside a general upside of overall better health. The minute u quit UR body begins to heal from the damage. If you would like to stop drinking, here are some tips and strategies to get you back on the path to sobriety.

Talk to UR doctor.

Change UR attitude toward quitting.

Get rid of bottles and cans.

Learn UR feelings.. Cry , laugh . Yell scream when u need too.

Don't do anything UR not ready to do. Be aware of patterns that set u up for drinking.

Learn coping tools to keep u in sobriety. 

LIFE IS A GIFT.

Start a motto to say over and over when temptation is calling u..LIKE.......

"Not One More Drink"........... The idea is from a brave member who found sobriety on this forum. This has given him a new start on life.

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Dear Al,

There is so much more u can say when u r ready to help Sylvain find sobriety .. & Stay Strong ...

I will be here supporting u every day. U r in my prayers every day... My thoughts and my heat is with you.

Many Blessings sent UR way.we r buddies thru this! biggrin

{{{hugs}}}

 

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thank you i try to tell it how it is, what i say is my experiance,there is a good side to sobriety, but there is a bad side to getting there, i hope we can help sylvain and thank you for your kind words.lol  

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Hearing UR experience is what's so important.

 

Of course only when UR ready.One drink at a time.. 

I'm with u in mor ways than u think! biggrin

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hi sylvain  i hope you have found some comfort in writing on this site,we are not experts we are all equal,i would like you to know some of my experiances i was a very heavy drinker, i would do anything for a drink, i was sick about 3 times a day, hospitalised, arrested, had a near death experiance, please dont go down my dark road, we are all here to help each other ,have you had any medical help ? you say your consuption is about 10 beers a day with me it was 1 ltr of spirits a day, you are not alone. alcohol is NOT your best friend it is your WORST enemy.try to find a hobby to concentrate on, take a walk, stay away from people who have a drink,you have been very brave,now show yourself how brave you are think possitive, keep on saying NOT ONE MORE DRINK it helped me, i wish you good health to come