Hi im new to this so not sure how it works. i met a guy in jan and things were fantastic, we got in like a best mates. He was going through some personal problems which has been going on for 3 and more so years before meeting me but he told me about it all as he thought its something i should know as its been a bug part of his life. Anyway the outcome of this personal problem was not good and was not what he wanted and has since became depressed and withdrew himself from me and now hardly has any contact with me at all. He says he still cares and none of this is my fault which i know but its so hard for me when i still have all these feelings he left me with of loving him and being around him so much to suddenly nothing. I dont want to give up on this guy as he is a really genuine lovely guy so have been texting letting him know im not giving up and that i still love him and what he means to me. Sometimes i will get a text back asking how i am but mainly its just silence.Im trying to give him the space he needs but it eats away at me everyday wondering how he is and what he's up to. I am willing to keep letting him know im here for him for as ling as it takes but then again im thinking how ling can it take as depression can last a very long time. Not sure if anyone has any advice on this.
I can tell you from experience that depression and anxiety really takes a toll on relationships. I have both anxiety and depression and it doesn’t make maintaining friendships or relationships very easy, so I can see where he is coming from. I think you did the right thing by letting him know that you’ll always be there for him and that you’re willing to help him with whatever, but I think maybe time and space is just what he needs. I think since you sent a text letting him know that you’re here for him, you need give him the space he desires and when he’s willing or ready to talk more then he will come to you. It is hard to let someone move at their own space, especially when you’re very much still in love and care about that person. I hope this helps.
Hi taylor
yes what you are saying helps me a little as i know i need to give him his space and time and there is nothing more id rather do than give him what he wants as i think that much of him which is why i have backed off with the texts and just remind him every week or so that im still there and still love and care which has been going on for 3 month now. Im just thinking does he want anything else to do with me anymore, how does he feel which after what iv read about depression im guessing not much and what does he think but after him telling me he see’s nothing but red as in anger i guess that emotion has took over him. He’s not removed me from social media which i find if he seems like he wants nothing to do with me why not. I really get how he is feeling but its hard to understand how he doesnt want someone who loves him around to help him through this