Hi everyone. I was recently treated for anxiety, and now seem to be suffering from a really bad case of depression. I've been signed off work for 2 and a half months so have lost a lot of friends and my social life/ my boyfriend quit his job round about the same time so we spent A LOT of time together. He now has a new job and I am really really struggling to cope on my own, and it's pushing him away. He is always too busy to contact me, and has recently started staying out for drinks whilst I wait at home with no idea where he is. He says I need to 'calm down' and I really really wish I could. I find it so hard to explain to him how I am feeling, and I just feel like I am holding him back from living his life. All I need is a little reassurance from him, but can't seem to get it. Any advice would be greatly appreciated 
thank you x
Somehow you do need to get your thoughts in order and discuss things with him in a calm manner.
Just picture it from his point of view - he is trying to get to grips with his new job - he loves you but sees you in a state, but doesn't know why.
So what should he think, or more importantly what can he do, until such time as you tell him how things actually are from your perspective?
Hi there, reading your story echos some of my recent experiences. I'm always told to "pull myself together" hmmm if it was that easy I would have done it months ago.
What I found I had to do was say what I was feeling even if it made little sense because to be honest it didn't make sense to me. But saying something was better than nothing. Tell him what you feel could help even if your not sure, eventually when you get things in order you can work out what works and what doesn't.
I expect your boyfriend finds it hard to understand depression. Lots of people don't understand how it affects us. You need to have a long talk with him and try and make him understand how you are feeling. Your behaviour is obviously worrying him, and he does not know how to deal with it.
Relationships often do suffer when one person has depression. He has a new job too which he must get used to. If you want reassurance from him, then you will have to ask for it. Ask him how he actually feels. I know you say it is difficult to do this, but if you don't talk to each other about how you feel, then things may not improve.
I am not sure what else to advise.