So I met this girl when I was 14, and my life has revolved around her for a constant 3 years. I have parents that met at 15 and are still together so this is the type of relationship I look up to. I made plans with her for after high school, I helped her during her college times and her two jobs. I tried the best I could in our relationship at all times. The last year we've had many fights, fights that are over stupid stuff. We did everything together, vacation, explore, you name it. So in my school there is a girl that she dislikes very much but was a good friend to me. She had a boyfriend, and ended up being pregnant with her boyfriend. I talked to her completely platonically and we never went past that. She would message me over social media and I'd respond and it would be stupid stuff like homework, or about the kids in our class. It never went past that but my girlfriend discovered these messages and we got in a very long argument. This was around 6 months ago and I thought we had moved past it. Earlier this week my girlfriend starts saying she wants time, a break from me. Initially I thought why? So I asked her why and I came to her house to talk to her (because we live close and she would drop by my house during previous arguments). She told me she didn't want to see me and now that we should break up. I asked for a reason why and she said I cheated on her and that she doesn't look at me the same. At this time I discovered she was also talking to another guy that she didn't tell me about (a little before our break). She doesn't respond to my texts or calls, and everytime she does its that she's done with and that I cheated on her. So I've decided to leave her alone, what do I do from here?
Nowhere unfortunately, if she wants to end the relationship and won't believe that you didn't cheat on her there isn't much you can do. Not all couples are like your parents perhaps in time she will miss you.
Ethan, I'm so sorry but Valerie is right. She's already decided, and even though she's in the wrong here, there's nothing you can do. The fact that she was talking to someone else on a different level than you were, but trying to justify it by calling you a cheat? It's a classic transferal of guilt, accusing you of something you're not part of but they are... It's not impossible that you'll get back together someday, so for now you need to leave well alone and keep yourself happy, forward-thinking and sane! Self respect, yes? Lots of love to you xx
Hi Ethan - give her the space, mate. It seems she is on her way out of this relationship - first she blamed you for allegedly "cheating" - without evidence or witnesses - and in the next breath she is stating that she "doesn't look at you the same." Sounds like she is seeking reasons to leave. Further than that, you are 17 with all the life and hormonal changes that happen at that stage. The first mutual love is profound, but rarely permanent. People grow at their own rates, changing tastes, moving into adulthood and out of the school environment.
It's a challenge for you and it may not seem like it now, but things happen for the best, life is a constant transition, nothing is permanent here, and you have a whole world of ladies out there waiting to meet you.