My husband and I got married 4 months ago. I am 18 and he is 28. He used to be so into sex and could not get enough of it. He used to kiss me and be very romantic. But now, he doesn't want to have sex anymore keeps saying he "needs more time" or "is not physically ready to have sex yet" we have tried supplements and libido enhancers, but he still doesn't want to have sex. And if we ever have sex he can't get an erection. I asked him is it me? And his answer is always no. Please help me! I am desperate!
Hmm...so once you already had plenty of sex or what do you say?! He is not physically ready..how so? Does he work physically as an animal all day long and he is too tired? If he can't get it up, it is usually in a men's head. he seems not to be able to communicate and to trust his thoughts and fears with you. Perhaps he is just depressed and stressed out because of some other things. Is he at least str8?!
He is a sound engineer. So no. Theres no hard physical Labour involved. He has had previous relationships and did not have any problems with them. He used to tell me everything but these days he seems to be holding back and "forgetting" to tell me stuff. He spends more time at work than usual. He is definitely straight.
Given your age you guys have a fairly big age difference. How long did you know each other before getting married? Why did you get married? The fact that it is not just sex but holding back other information and the fact he is spending more time at work may mean he no longer wants to be in a relationship with you or perhaps there is another woman or it could be he really has lost his sex drive and is embarrassed. He needs to go to doctor if he has not already done so to try to find the cause of his loss of libido. Both of you, or at least you, should probably get counseling to decide what to do next and to see whether the relationship can be fixed.