Ive known my husband for 10 years and we’ve been sleeping together for 8 years. We have a 7 year old son. I was tested for herpes 3 times while I was pregnant and it came back negative and I was pregnant 4 years ago which resulted in a miscarriage but I had another test that came back negative. Also, I am a cancer survivor and I had several test for HIV Herpes, and many other stds to rule out the symptoms before being diagnosed with cancer, all cane back negative. My husband who was my boyfriend at the time had been unfaithful two years prior to me having cancer. He slept with 3 different women in a two month span. i was with one man sexually before him and only had sex once, my other boyfriend performed oral sex on me and attempted to have intercourse but we never did. so fast forward to 7 years after I’ve only been having sexual with him and have tested negative for any std possible, he was having a sore throat a lot, and lots of tingling in his feet. He thought the feet tingling was from diabetes (I don’t know why) and he wrote off the sore throat. Then, a few week to a month later, he notices a scab between his butt cheeks. At first it was one but by the next day it was on both cheeks. Almost symmetrical. He thought it was from a paper cut but I kept telling him I thought it was an infection from not properly wiping himself because it was on the same spot on each cheek like it was contagious. But still he wrote it off and we didn’t think anything of it. About 4 months later he hasn’t ever had the problems again and now I have all the tingling symptoms and sores on my vagina. I went to the doctor and tested positive for herpes 1. Now he says to have only cheated with those 3 women but then confessed that he did have unprotected sex. I have been getting outbreaks like crazy ever since my first one but he hasn’t at all except for the minor tingling. Is there a reason why I’m getting that and not him?
Same over here I get the outbreaks every month but not him.
Sounds like you've been having atough time abie
It's not uncommon. I have very mild outbreaks that are barely noticable maybe twice per year but my girlfriend had very painfull outbreaks every 4-6 weeks.
I suspect that if your immune system is less than 100% from the cancer or it's treatment, that may be allowing the Herpes to break out more too.
I am so sorry to hear of your dilemma. I know people treat herpes like it’s nothing but there need to be more education out there on it so people can maybe think twice. This situation I very different because he knowingly had unprotected sex with all the risks out there.
I really hope your outbreaks reduce and you have a healthy lifestyle.