Hi All,
I'm new to the forum and have just been reading through some of the prior posts which I have found helpful and appreciate greatly.
First off this isn't about myself, but my partner. She has been on citalopram for 16years now and is slowly trying to come off it. She's currently in a rehab come ahsram type place in India and has been on and off for about 7 months, which for therapy etc is fantastic (it's also where about 9 years back I managed to get sober from my heroin addiction).
She has been a long term sufferer of depression and anxiety, all started around the time her mother passed away and her father left her to fend for herself when she was a teen.
The doc put her on 40mg back then, she got suicidal so the doc upped her dosage to 60mg (she was 16 at that point) and she had been on that dose since.
Then around 2 years back she managed to cut from 60 to 40, using a tapering method over a month using 3 day cycles, 60-60-40, repeated over 2 weeks, 60-40-60-40 etc for 2 weeks 40-60-40 over 2 weeks and then stabilised on 40. She found she could manage that cut relatively okay with mild withdrawals, she then tried to cut using a similar method of 40 to 20, got terribly panic attacks, suicidal etc so stayed on 40.
Since she's been having therapy in India she cut from 40 to 30 using again tapering method over about a month to 6 weeks. She felt fine until getting to the stabilisation on 30s, where she felt terrible for about 2 weeks, nauseaus panic attacks wherever she went, crying spells, disassociated etc. Though that only lasted for about 2 weeks. She stabilised on 30s about a month back and with the therapy has been feeling a lot better.
She came home over the last few weeks for a trip and then upon return to the rehab/ashram in India she tried to cut to 20mg, again using the aforementioned technique, but literally within the first couple of days of her 30-30-20 cycle she started having almost continuous panic attacks, suicidal, disassociated etc again. This was pretty surprising for her as she assumed it would be similar to cutting from 40 to 30 where the withdrawals would be felt most towards the end of the taper. Shes went back up to 30s and stayed on there after only 6 days of tapering (30-30-20-30-30-20) as she said she was getting scared, was unable to attend therapy, eat in groups with more than a couple of people due to her anxiety, long crying spells, nauseaus, dizzy and the suicidal thoughts were really frightening her.
I just spoke to her on the phone and as you can imagine her self esteem and confidence is completely shot. She's been doing exceptionally well in therapy and has come a huge way over the past 7 months and Im very proud of her and just trying to support any way I can.
Does anyone have any advice/support I can offer her? She desperately wants to be off these meds in the long run, but I think she feels right now like shes not capable of anything.
Thanks for any help
Nikhil (and my beautiful partner's name is Bella)