Hello everyone, along with everything else does anyone's neck and shoulders really ache and feel heavy grindy and bulky ? So tired of focusing on all these horrid symptoms but every day there's something. Health anxieth kicking off big time over everything , I can't help it as I really DONT want to feel like this. Starting counselling on Monday and freaking out about that too, I know I'm beyond help, I really can't see how talking can get me through this ? Thanks x
I'm sure it will help Lou...(counselling) just reading these posts seems to have some benefits too. Someone reading this now will get back to you if they are having the same troubles. Hang in there. Jess x
Hi Lou, I remember the neck & shoulder aches, and heaviness. I would put epsom salt water on my neck and shoulders, and that would alleviate that feeling. Counseling didn't help at all. Sorry but trying to control your hormones is where the counseling needs to be directed towards. Especially at a time when everything in your mind and body is going haywire because your hormones are off sync. But if you think it will help more power to you. xx
Thank you for that - ive been rubbing tiger balm in aswell which gives some relief but it comes back ! Yes the Epsom salts was also mentioned by a friend so I'll get some now. - also a bit sceptical regards the counselling but that's for other long term issues aswell, we'll see. Thank you x
thanks jess, I think sometimes we all need a little reassurance when these symptoms get ontop of us and it's good to have so many lovely friends here who I do regard as friends as you and people like you are always here. Thanks and take care x
I have the achy body too. It's the estrogen dropping according to a doctor I talked to specializing in menopause. Like someone said above, you need to work on balancing hormones over talk therapy. That can come later. Doctors prescribe Ambien for sleep and anti-depressants for depression when in fact, it's our hormones that are out of whack during this time. Eating clean and exercising is the best thing you can do for yourself along with a little USP progesterone cream. That's what I'm doing.
I've got the achy body too but mine are my feet, lower back and arms. I was told by a doctor it's most likely caused from the loss of estrogen. Like someone said above, you need to work on hormone balancing first. Talk therapy might help after, but right now that's just a band-aid just like Ambien is for sleep or Prozac is for depression. Hormones are where it started. You want to look at having a clean diet and doing exercise.
I have the achy body too. It's the estrogen dropping according to a doctor I talked to specializing in menopause. Like someone said above, you need to work on balancing hormones over talk therapy. That can come later. Doctors prescribe Ambien for sleep and anti-depressants for depression when in fact, it's our hormones that are out of whack during this time. Eating clean and exercising is the best thing you can do for yourself along with a little progesterone cream. That's what I'm doing.
Hi lou ...I have the neck pain and my neck feels very stiff some days and when I turn my head from side to side I have this horrible grinding sound too...but I notice that it is only sometimes and not others I also have my whole ribcage feels alive it's very painful at times and extremely uncomfortable ....your not alone with your anxiety that's for sure I am always thinking that I have every disease known to man when things act up ....hold on one day we will all get through this ...I have started to look at older women as proof that we do indeed make it out alive ...hope you start to feel some relief from these horrible symptoms
Thank you for that and im sorry you're suffering too. You make an excellent point actually that im so wrapped up in anxiety to even think about - look at older women! they are so amazing, strong and still here ! We will survive this just as many thousands of other ladies have so thank you you've made a very good point 😉
no worries believe me it's taken me a very long time to come to that conclusion myself and even still it is hard to think that way in the midst of severe anxiety but that's what I have tried to start doing now and it is helping me ....wishing you all the best and hope you get some relief from all this nastiness real soon
Hi Lou, Im sorry that you are feeling this way right now. My neck, jaw and shoulder are feeling that way. Its been a few days of this and it goes into my arm too. Ugh! I know that mine is anxiety because I keep pushing myself to do more and more. Then I feel mentally overwhelmed. You are not alone with this and you are not beyond help either. Remember that God gave you a sound mind.....even though we do not always feel that way right now. I hope that your day is going better and Im always praying for you and all of us
Thats a great way to think. I need to start looking at the older ladies that way Whatever gets us through this right?! Thank you
Oh Lou.
Yes you sound like me! Neck and back tension between my shoulder blades. Recently I have also noticed pain across the kidney area. Blood tests show kidneys are fine. So I am assuming that is muscular too. You can google Perimenopause and muscle tension and there are some good articles out there. Just don't google too much! I have the same issue with the health anxiety. Every new symptom is something devastating and off to the doctor I go. My quality of life is really suffering right now. I feel beyond help too. Lol. My AD doesn't seem to be working, so all I can do is take my anti anxiety pill and try to get a little exercise. Nothing too strenuous. Please don't feel alone. Weird symptoms, anxiety= Perimenopause. Hopefully😁🙏
Me too. When I see spunky older women at the gym and at church it gives me hope. One day I will get up the courage to ask them how they did it. Probably be my luck that they would be offended and say they haven't been through menopause or no help because they didn't have any symptoms. Lol. Some days are so hard, I just want to give up! I don't want to feel this way forever. And I really would love to be a source of support when o do make it for others going through this rough patch of our life.
Lol your so funny....they havent been through it yet. I want to come back on here and help others as well when I am through this. I notice alot of ladies post are about a year ago. I can only hope that they are feeling better. This is rough but we can do it!
some days are extremely hard I thought I was done with this then bam I hit 60 and it's all back and severe so I'm having a hard time with it all right now but trying to tell myself that it's all normal that I will survive and one day I will be one of those older ladies in their 70's that is on the other side of it all...although I'm not in a hurry to get older lol and it's true when you talk to some older ladies a lot of them say "oh I sailed right through with not much problem at all" my own mother is one of them ..it makes me wonder what is so different today ..maybe all the chemicals we have been ingesting throughout our lives that they didn't ?
My jaw too. I didn't know what that was! My shoulder had been aching a couple of weeks ago and then I noticed a small lump and dent in my muscle just below my shoulder. I am pretty sure I have a partial tear of my bicep tendon. My doctor poopooed it and said its a strain and told me that bicep tears happen at the elbow. Which is incorrect. They can, but usually with an injury. They most commonly detach at the shoulder. He said ice and Motrin. I'm like whatever. I mean really I have a dent and lump in my muscle on one arm and not the other!! With pain/aching. I am pretty sure I am changing primary care doc. Anyways what I was getting at, is I don't remember doing anything that caused it or heard a pop or anything, so it may have been gradual and I am really hoping that it's an effect of these hormones on my tendons that caused it rather than something more serious. I will eventually get it checked by ortho. I used to be an ortho nurse...and really wanted to argue with him, but didn't have the energy to even go there
I have also got in the sauna at the gym a couple of times. I can only stay about 5 minutes max, but they say it is supposed to relax your muscles. It didn't do anything for me. So, I decided I really don't want to sit in a 150degree room and then walk outside to 105 degree heat index. 😳 The Epsom salt bath did help, but makes me very tired. So I would only do before bed. I hope you get some relief soon
Hiya I'm so sorry you have all these aches and pains and I just wanted to let you know I do too. My whole neck back and shoulders are so very sore and locked up at times-especially when I get up in the morning. I also have stiff elbows and my index finger joint on each hand are also achy and painful lately. Been panicking it's arthritis but maybe it is peri? I'm 51 and trying not to panic as I know there are so many of us ladies coping with this.
I've tried to up my exercise, change my pillows and eat clean but maybe I actually need a little progesterone? Can we get this from the docs? Xxxx