Hey I have suffered depression I still have it but mild although before I was feeling awful lost alone and I Was not me I started to realise my nana my strong 75 year old nana who has always been everyone rock my best friend and been more of a mum to me than my own was acting really odd I mentioned depression to her but she did not listen my grandad is dieing and even though he's strong and holding on its happened so fast within a month of him been diagnosed with cancer he was getting worse and worse but my nana said to me today she finally opened up because I mentioned depression again and seeking help she said iv been thinking suicide there's fuels near hers with big holes and she was on about jumping in one she said she doesnt think she would have the guts to slit her wrists she I'd hardly eating she sleeps all day she does go out but to see my grandad in his care home and she even told me she's now going to shop so early to get the paper for my grandad so she does not bump into anybody ! She was really sociable before she's pushing everyone away iv told her I'm here for her she needs to get help and I have been through the same but she is not listening how can I persuade her to get help I'm so scared that she is just going to give up from a independent happy sociable loving strong person to now this I feel I'm the only one in the family that has noticed but that's because iv been there but I still don't know how to help
Stephx, thats is so so upsetting to hear. Life can be so cruel and it doesnt matter what ahge you are we all general end up struggling. Its Human Nature. Maybe if you can spare time take here out or stay over with her and say you want a girlie night with her watching corrie or something. She must be feeling lonely and she starting to grieve early as she cant in here mind help your grandad. thefact she is there for him in these time is hat your grandad wants and she is doing him the world of good I bet, just being there.
Thank you I wish I could stay other but I have two small children this is what's making me feel terrible I have a lot going on regarding my anxiety and depression and looking after two little children I love her so much I'm trying my best to be there for her I ring her everyday go and see her everytime.i can she won't listen and go to doctors and I feel helpless to as what else I can do iv told her if she ever feels she is going to do something she needs to ring me ASAP but I'm scared one day she will ring and I won't be in 😟 .
I was going to ring her doctors to see if they could help but then I can remember my partner been told they couldn't do anything for me unless I was willing for them too just feel at a loss end to be honest tha Kyo for your reply I will try my best to get her out and take her somewhere nice ect try and get some more understanding out of her but it's hard because every time I ask her even to sleep here its no I want to be alone xx
Maybe be a little more firmer or say the kids want to see great grandma. But also you do need to take care and ensure that your gp knows that you have increased stress that is provoking you anxiety and depression. I guess by nipping it in the bud and let other know they can look after you.