My boyfriend of 3 years and I have separated, we kept arguing but always ended sorting things out. I have an 8 year old daughter from a previous relationship.
We both live with relatives at the minute. It's all been quite stressful.
Anyway to cut the story short we split up a couple of weeks ago and then I panicked and said I wanted to try work at things, sorry I'd been so stressed etc. Now he won't get back with me, he says he's depressed, he's on tablets, he doesn't know what he wants , he still loves me but doesn't know if he can be with me, ever! I don't know if I'm meant to wait around or not... I feel totally lost...
He still loves me but he says he doesn't know what he wants in any aspect of his life. I feel betrayed as we've been so close and im hurting so badly.. I feel like I can't go on without him.
He's already talking about going out with the lads etc and I couldn't think of any bring worse.. I'm so down I can't even get out of bed... What do I do?? What would you say to him?
I would say he needs to time to work out what's right for him and so do you. May not be what you want to hear, but I think you need to concentrate on what's bet for your daughter right now, all this will be confusing and upsetting for her. Let him burn off some steam, if he truly loves you, he'll come back, if not at least you know where you ran and can concentrate on your future with your little girl xxx
Sometimes this sort of thing happens and there is little you can do, just wait.
If He is depressed it may take some time for Him to decide what He wants. Could it be if you been depressed it has rubbed down to him as well.
The other problem is your child, could it be that, that has caused His concerns as He gets further along in your relationship with Him. You can give some space to Him and see how it goes. Also you could ask yourself what have you been getting out of this relationship. What was that arguement about ?.
Hi Laura - sorry to read of your dilemma. Like the two previous posters, I would say that you need to gve the man some space. This means leaving him to make contact with you if and when he is ready. I assume you are young, and perhaps he feels a little burdened with a ready-made family. Let him go out with the lads - trying to impede him from what he wants will only extend the distance between you both. Right now you need to make sure your daughter is in a stable environment - children have a way of blaming themselves for issues in the family unit, she may need reassurance. I'm wondering whether her father is in the picture anywhere?