Hi. Im 45 and was diagnosed over 5 years ago and still struggle emotionally with the stigma attached with having genital herpes. Ive only recently met someone who after much wine and much crying told him about my dilema. He is understandably really concerned about this. I don't blame him really. Do you all use the stated protection when having sex? I'm almost thinking about ending it for his benefit.
Also another question if i may. I don't know when i have an outbreak. Is this common not to know?
Thanks but so disappointed with my previou choices
Don't beat yourself up over it. It's not it.
Not everyone gets warning signs of an outbreak. Indeed, only half get prodromal signs, so you are are not alone or unusual in that regard. I get no warning either, except soreness, possibly with some swelling (depending on the location), but that's when I am already starting an outbreak, so not exactly a warning, lol. Do you have Type 1 or Type 2? Only the latter is a concern.
Hi feliscatus I was wondering i was recently diagnosed with HSV2, is it possible to get a out outbreak on your mouth even if u not having sex.
Not likely, hsv2 is genital. Also sometimes before and during an outbreak, the lymphoids on my thigh are sore and tender
To answer your " if we use protections question"
I have been with 3 partners since being diagnosed with GHSV1 i told each guy before hand that i had it.
One chose not to use protection, he did not contract the virus from me. Granted im not recommending you or your partner not use protection.
The other two used protection, although of those two one has oral HSV1.
All in all if your partner really cares for you im sure you guys can work past it. Using protection is very important and reduces chances of infection.
Genital Type 1 is practically a non-issue when it comes to sexual transmission and having herpes generally. No idea what the OP has, but if Type 2, it's not comparable, besides the first outbreak.
An outbreak can occur regardless of sex even on the genitals, so it's certainly possible in other infected locations as well (to have an outbreak without sex). However, as True notes, Type 2 is rarely oral, so unless you were swab tested positive there, it's not likely to be Type 2 causing you problems orally.
I have read genital type one is difficult to pass on, as far as genital to genital contact goes. But i understand the case with type 2 is not the same. I have no idea as well about the OP but i decided to offer my personal experience, if it offered any help/insight to their question.
I can see how what i mentioned can be mis leading though if the OP has type 2. So thanks for clarifying.