I have been in a relationship for 2yrs and the whole time he's said he was a landlord and has many apartments. He never gets calls or has any contact with tenants. He leaves for up to 1 hrs everyday to go to the bank. I have looked at listing for property owners in town yet have not found him on any lists. He also says he has a large inheritance from his mother passing. He was adopted at 2 and says his brother is keeping it tied up in court so he can't touch it. How do find out the truth? I know he's keeping things from me but I don't understand why
Very strange...I know this is hard...but DEMAND answers now before you get deeper into this relationship.
So does he go to work everyday?
What does he do daily?
There are a number of web sites where for little money you can secretly check anyone's background.
Run away now and don't look back!
Run for the hills, Tia.
Don't waste time trying to find things out.
Just leave. He sounds like an arch manipulator and you're his stooge.
Get away!! NOW
In fact, without having met him, he sounds like a psychopath.
They can be very charming but your best interests are not their goal.
They think ONLY of themselves.
Come on, Tia! Who goes to the bank every single day?
Why don't you go with him and see what he says when you suggest it.
Or, on second thoughts, just pack and run, darling.
Goes to the bank, by the sound of it.
That's the thing he supports us. He just went back to work. He sells timeshare he makes alot of money. He comes home with money every time and it's in a bank envelope so there's no question that he does go to the bank but where the money comes from is the question. How you think he's a psychopath for going to the bank is beyond me. No where in my comment did I give any details of his personality.
Considering I don't work and he takes care of me how am I a stooge? You read one small comment and decide to respond by insulting me and pretending to what be a professional psychologist who can diagnose a person with no character info.
This is all really weird....I would sit down with him and ask him point blank questions and I would keep asking questions until I had ALL my answers.
Can I ask why you haven't asked to be taken by one of the apartment complexes? Can I ask if you know who is property managers are?
property managers are people who are on site for him..checking things...have there ever been any calls for repairs?
Has he ever complained about specific tenants by name?
These would be my questions to him.
Who is your favorite tenant?
What is your favorite property?
Have you ever had to evict anyone?
Comments I would say...
I want to take a ride by your favorite apartment complex this weekend.
Those should be enough to get a good conversation started.
if he is lost for words...or stutters...on anything! GET TOUGH.
Tia what answers are you looking for ? Either you want to be with him or you don't ! People are trying to give you good advice but you don't want to hear it, or is it because he has money ? Leave him as advised by others or stay - up to you !
And get moving.
Tia, I was not trying to insult you.
You wouldn't be asking a crowd of people you don't know for advice if you felt secure in this relationship.
And I think you gave enough information in your original post for people to come to their own conclusions.
Nobody has suggested that you stay and do nothing. Even the people who didn't respond with a 'GET OUT' scenario advised you to find out before you made a decision.
I'm not a psychologist. Just an Old Lady who is worried about you.
I love him! He's a great guy but the financial thing bothers me because I know he hides his financial information for reasons I won't get into but I think he is afraid to tell me the truth because it's complicated. I did a background check and got nothing! I'm not superficial and could care less how much money he has. We do everything together honestly maybe I should let it go when he's ready he will tell me or he won't. It would hurt more to lose him!
And I can think of several reasons why he would come home every day with a wad of cash.
Have you seen any of the properties he sells as timeshares? And please bear in mind that large sums of money (such as for purchasing property) are dealt with by bank transfer, not CASH.
Think. Think - what people earn lots of cash every day?
Have you met the brother who's tying up the money?
Ask a lawyer if it is possible for a brother to tie up another one's inheritance via the justice system.
I am moving...eating fish right now.
I understand that when people read responses they can be taken the wrong way...already sensitive when we are posting....I think this last post was sweet.
So why won't you tell us the reasons he hides his financial information from you - if you already know what those reasons are?
I understand that you want to know why he keeps things from you.
But the fact that he DOES keep things from you is extremely worrying.
Tessa I worked with him. His checks are deposited into my account I know what he sells and all about the company I never questioned any of that. Thank you for the advice believe me I know timeshare salesmen are sneaky. My thought is he and his ex have something together and he's afraid I will leave if the truth comes out. I know how I sound. I have been through alot and I was praying he was it and still am. My ex fiance passed 5yrs ago and I'm finally able to breath again I'm just very confused and lost right now
Ummmm ....... Just seems like he's hiding something from you, I don't like secrets and you deserve better than this - why won't he just be upfront with you , if he's your partner he should be honest. I know it sounds awful to ask but have you been through his mobile fone ? trouble is when people are secretive it builds mistrust and suspicion - if it was me it would drive me mad and I couldn't live like that with the not knowing what's going on, I'd be looking into everything, it sounds bad but I'd be going through his wallet, fone, car, everything looking for signs as to what he's up too - but be careful , if he doesn't tell you the truth then why and Whats he hiding.
you worked with him? You are concerned he is working with his ex?
Ask him.
Is horrible to have anyone pass away....blessings.
Oh Lord.
WHY are HIS cheques paid into YOUR account??????