I've been diagnosed with GH2, a week ago. I just ended a bad relationship of 5 years and now dating the best man I could ever imagine . I've never been treated so good until him . I got texted because he ended up getting something on him . I have never had any symptoms . Ever which is why I never imagined I could have this . Well now that I know I have this . I'm scared I gave this to him . I don't get it . To never have an out break never had another man I've been with have any symptoms. To him having this 3 weeks after we have sex. The guilt I have the disgust I feel . I need to tell him and don't know how . I'm getting retested in a month because I just can't believe this is true .
Feeling hopeless
You not alone, some people have the virus and they don't know because it can be asymptomatic.
The best way is to comunicate with your partner and get doc test and treatment.
Best,
I'm sorry I'm not sure I follow your letter. You need to tell him what, that you have herpes? How do you know - got tested after he said he had symptom?
If what I'm understanding correctly, I think education can help in this matter, both to help your guilt an disgust and for him to hopefully not hold something against you that you didn't know and weren't irresponsible about (the moment you had reason to suspect it, you got tested). I would bring your test results, ask him how his bump or whatever is doing, better, you hope? And then tell him that because his symptom, you went to get tested and though you've never had symptoms, found out you're positive for herpes. Show him info from one of the many websites that say 80% people who have it are asymptomatic and don't know they're infected. Since you were being tested, did you get a full sti screening? Or one recently? To show your responsibility, show that to him too.
Good luck, best wishes and remember lots of people find acceptance when telling a new partner.
The medical community's recommendations regarding herpes make no sense, and you are not to blame. Few people are routinely screened for it, but transmit it not knowing they have it. Either they have no symptoms, or they don't realize the symptoms they do experience are caused by herpes. Then these people who the medical community thinks need not know they have herpes, transmit it to someone. This person does recognize symptoms or suspects, and goes in for treatment. The doctor gives them a blood test diagnosing it and then tells them they have to go around telling every partner they have it, which leads to massive rejection. So, half of the population with herpes goes around undiagnosed, while the other half they give it to are shunned. It makes no sense. There are high quality screening tests available now, everyone should be screened, and everyone would then realize that given how common and theater why mild herpes is, no one should be shunned for having it. The medical community has really failed patients on this one.