So I have herpes type 1 down below! I have had it for 2 years and only had one initial first outbreak (which was horrendous) I am currently seeing someone new. We haven't yet had sex but I feel it will be happening very soon, And I'm so scared I will pass it over to him. Either by him giving me oral or through sexual intercourse. Obviously I will be using condoms but I'm still so scared to pass it over to him, that I feel like I won't even be able to relax and enjoy the sex as it will be on my mind so much! Has anyone got any advice or experience with a similar situation. Would love to hear your stories anything that can help put my mind at rest a little bit.
Thank you xx
Hi! I also have herpes but it’s type one and have it orally. I used to get cold sores allll the time back in elementary school, and I haven’t gotten one since then! Have you asked your partner if he’s ever had cold sores? Cold sores are typically caused by herpes simplex 1, but can also be passed down to your private parts. If he had cold sores in the past whether orally or on his gentiles then there is practically no risk of him really catching something from you! Usually when you have herpes in a certain place it’s alot harder to get it in another place lol. I too have that fear of passing on the virus to someone that I kiss or I’m intimate with LOL, but I’ve legit had it since I was in elementary school. I still have yet to see a cold sore pop out of no where on my mouth and let me tell you it hasn’t happened in years! My thought was that half of the population is infected with herpes. Herpes type 1 especially! So when I hear people like you that contract it so far in life that’s very intriguing. You should have a talk with him and sit him down and just chat about the risk! Chances are he’s probably already been exposed to the virus already, but if not just chat with him and educate him.
Do you think you’d feel comfortable talking to him about it?
It may put your mind at ease if you explained the virus to him and that you haven’t had an outbreak for years but reassure him if you were to have a second outbreak you wouldn’t have sex with him during the contagious period.
I’ve never had to tell a new partner as I was diagnosed well into my relationship with my fiancé so he knew from the start so I don’t know for sure how I’d feel if I was faced with your situation but it may help xx
I have HSV1 genitally as well. When I told my new partner I was terrified, but it turns out he has it too. He gets cold sores, though. But that eased my mind a lot because it’s very unlikely he would catch it down there as long as we don’t have sex during a breakout (which would never happen because of pain). He was very understanding and we’ve been together for 4 months.
I wouldn’t have sex until you tell him. You will worry yourself sick about passing it, and if by some chance you did, that wouldn’t be fair to him. If he’s a good person and truly cares for you, it will not be a big deal. If you use condoms and also take the antiviral daily, your chances of spreading are very very low. Good luck! I remember that fear, but it gets better!!