So had depression and anxiety since I was about 13 (now 21) and always had it under control through the help of counselling in various forms. These days even that doesn't help, I never feel like I can get myself across to anyone I speak to. Recently I've found myself dealing with everybody else's crap as well as my own.
My major problem at the moment is my fiance, he is having a hard time because he's been out of work for a while now and it's really getting to him, I can see all the signs of some major depression and he totally denies it, just becomes a rather horrible person, in the sense he's moody, snappy and unresponsive when talking to him. I'm worried that if he doesn't get help and goes down I'll go down with him.
The other thing that is really playing on my mind the most seems stupidly petty but I found the whole situation very hurtful.
A girl, who for a very long time I called my best friend was recently diagnosed with depression and due to this with stress and anxiety is not graduating university this year. I found this out through Facebook, where she is very publicly displaying everything, where loads of people were commenting on how brave and strong she was being. I found the whole situation very upsetting since only a small handful of people know of my condition (including her) and 1 she couldn't tell me personally, 2 she made it so public and is continuing to do so a few weeks later. On top of this, I purposely haven't contacted to see if she would contact me first and she hasn't.
Does anyone have any advice for me on any of this?
HI Ally-Katie I am sorry to hear about your depression and problems.
You have to take care of yourself first and foremost otherwise your depression might get worse and like you said you could be dragged down as well.
Your bf has a choice to seek treatment and if he won't there is very little you can do. You could try saying that you can't cope with his awful comments and if he doesn't start trying to help himself it might put your relationship in jeopardy! See how he responds to that. If he won't then I think you have to distance yourself as much as possible from him as you have enough problems of your own and can't take on his as well. Make sure he knows this.
As for your friend I understand how upset you are by her behaviour but she sounds like quite a sad case if she has to broadcast it on fb for goodness sake. The same applies as you cannot take on her problems either.
You need to look for support from people who care about you and will support you. Stay with us on here and we will help and support you as much as possible. Ok? Bev x
Hi Ally. I would leave her well alone and concentrate on yourself. There's too much private stuff displayed on FB and other social media sites these days. I think these people are just attention seekers who can't get what they need any other way! Some men do seem to get moody when things go wrong in there life, they find it hard to communicate with others, especially partners and bottle everything up. Look after yourself first or you won't be able to help him or anyone else in the long term. He will find a way I'm sure and he does need to know your feelings. Take care and keep in touch with us on Here! X