Hi everyone. So I've been suffering on and off with severe depression for some time now. It has caused me to lose a lot of jobs as one of my biggest symptoms is motivation and getting out of bed in the morning. I think that I'm lazy and useless even though I know that the feeling is a lot stronger than aw I just can't be bothered today. I've great friends and family for support but my husband has never experienced with depression and he's the kind of person who doesn't see it as an actual illness. He has a just snap out of it approach which makes me 10 times worse tho I know its not his fault. I can't stick to anything I do or keep any sort of routine. Once things pick up I ruin it all again within a week or so. I also drink wine every other night which I no doesn't help. I've started on sertraline which is causing bad side affects but I hope it helps soon.
Depression is real and your hubby needs to get educated. Exercise is helpful and have you tried some natural remedies? I like essential oils. Frankicense and lavender are good in a coconut oil carrier for depression and sleep issues. Peppermint is calming and increases alertness and energy. Just keeping it in my purse and putting a drop on my wrist to breath in helps.Also, Samme and St johns wart. It is hard to be motivated when depressed and anxiety goes right with it. Find someone who understands that you can talk to and practice gratefulness and I like to read my Bible and meditate on God's promises. Find something that you can enjoy for work. Try to find your passion and dream. I love being outside in nature and gardening. You will feel better..don't give in to discouragement.
Hi Vicky - what you are feeling is indeed real. One of the worst things we acn tell ourselves or hear from others is that "you're just lazy," "you just tired and emotional," or the one of the most infuriating and frustrating: "Snap out of it!"
You have been prescribede meds so you have obviously seen a doctor. Did the doc also refer you to a counsellor/therapist/psychologist at all? If not, go and get a referral. part of the problem of depression is that it is the result of underlying psychological issues. A med is a band aid - the wound is still there if the underlying issues have not been addressed. When you get that referral, ask you husband to accompany you to at least the first session. He needs to be educated on how to live with a person suffering depression, and he needs to learn that this is not a disease that can be wished, thought or prayed away. His education will make your life easier and he will understand that this illness controls itself unless we actively address it. Alcohol is a depressant. It may enable us to 'forget' things for a while, but ultimately it feeds the depression. Hang in there with the meds - they will take 3-8 weeks to work and may need adjusting in type or doage. Keep communication with the doc. Don't stop taking meds just because you are feeling better. This is a process and will take time. Best of luck to you - you are not alone.