I seriously think there may be something weird about me. I literally find it so difficult to feel in the mood for anything in the bedroom. Throughout my life I've mostly felt that doing stuff just because it's expected of people my age and I've always felt the other person was way more into than me. I've considered I may be a-sexual but that doesn't ring true because I still get the odd feelings here and there (for men and women.)
I constantly am anxious that I'm not attracted to my boyfriend, I start comparing him to past exs and trying to figure out if I was more attracted to them. I just don't know if there is that spark but then I go what if this is all anxiety as it tends to cling on to things I care about? Like I've sometimes looked at him and get the odd twangs of feeling in love (which never happens to me because I've never been in love - I'm 23 by the way) It seems that once I am in a relationship that sexual attraction just seems to lessen considerably and I really just can't be bothered with it.
I can't do one night stands as there is no emotional connection at all because I hardly know them. I feel like I need that connection but when in a relationship it's too much?
Hi Sophie, I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. You are not alone, my sex drive is awful at the moment, I’ve never had a really high sex drive but since the anxiety has been through the roof it’s been even worse and I just can’t be bothered.
I love my boyfriend so much but when it comes to the bedroom I just don’t feel good about it and it has been since the anxiety has worsened. I’ve yet to find a way to get it back so I’m sorry I can’t be much help. I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone in this and I definitely feel it too! X
Thank you so much for your comment Jade. I've never really had a high sex drive either but it is ridiculous at the moment. He gets offended that I want it done quickly (which is understandable) but it just adds to my frustration and overall feeling that I'm strange.
I value affection and emotional conversations a lot more than sex anyway. I just find it hard to get into it when I feel like I'm going to have an anxiety attack! The constant dp/dr state doesn't help either x
Hi ladies I no that one real well my partner has accused me of having an affair because my sex life gone it's up the creek I try to say to her it's no her but then we end up arguing because she goes to a different planet like you think I am ugly don't you the more I try to explain the bigger I dig my self into a hole and when we go out it's like why our you getting dressed up who our you trying too impress so we just end up staying home
Totally agree! I feel like I’m not satisfying him but equally feel like he doesn’t try because he knows I won’t be in the mood. I also would rather it happened quickly as then I won’t have to worry about having an attack. I feel odd and just like they don’t understand.
I’m hoping I’ll feel more comfortable about it soon but it’s just not at the top of my priority list. I fully understand that it’s hard to be with someone who struggles with anxiety but for us it’s equally as difficult to maintain a healthy relationship when we struggle with it. Let me know if you find anything that helps! Happy to message if you need a chat x
I am also in the same boat. Its an awful feeling. My mind is fried going around and around my head looking for a reason.
Have been getting Councelling lately and I have gained alot of weight from medication for my anxiety so maybe this is a contributing factor so she suggested I concentrate on loosing the weight and my confidence might come back again, she said obviously when I am not happy myself, Im not going to be happy anyone else seen me,
Anxiety, Depression and Panic attacks are all contribution factors also to loss of interest in sex so maybe that is why I have NO INterest anymore.
I stopped the Lyrica (Pregabalin) drug 2 months ago because alot of people loose there sex drive while on this but nothing has came back yet.
She suggested also maybe seen a sex therpist who specialises in this field