No hope

Mental health
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I've lost hope in finding love every guy I meet offers me the world then just ignores me

I feel God likes making my life a joke

I have anxiety and depression and I don't know how I am to get over it if all I seem to attract is guys who chip at my self esteem and belief in hope

2

Are you depressed when you meet these guys?

Maybe they feel like they couldnt help?

Why are you depressed?

3

No i go in being myself being positive got on with someone really well...they said we had a connection now just ignoring me

4

I had depression and anxiety due to a lack of self esteem brought on by a previous relationship

5

Are you sleeping with them & then they leave?

Sorry if its a touchy subject Im just trying to find the right answers.☺

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I slept with the last one but he continued to chat to me and say how we had more of a connection than just sleeping with each other

7

Are you still in contact with him via phone/email?

I would ask him outright what went wrong?

Maybe its them & not yourself that has the problem. It must be frustrating I know,but im a great believer in trying to get to the bottom of things.☺

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I just don't know why this happens to me all the time I have no hope left.

Does he dislike me that much

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I feel like I'm

Cursed

10

Hello Kelly

I know relationship issues are really disheartening when you feel every man you meet just brings you down and makes you feel upset.

Trust me I feel hopeless when I cannot get the chance to even find a girlfriend as my aniexty kicks in and I get all these thoughts to the point where it is pointless in me to even consider a relationship as I don't want them to suffer than I do.

I bet you are a fine looking woman who lacks trust when trying to find the right man, all I want to say is stay strong and never give up hope!

Sorry if I could not give a definitive answer, I just want you to understand that I am here to listen to your worries and you can rely at someone to at least understand what you are going through!

Best Wishes and Stay Strong!

Alex

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Kelly,dont be to hard on yourself,maybe your overthinking things? It could be something so simple . Dont keep blaming yourself.

Ask him.

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Well it's obviously something I did wrong

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I even tried to keep my options open...we met on Tinder, so I would update my profile etc it's not like I was clinging on to him...as most guys complain it's like that in the early stages....I kept my life going and kept it cool

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I can't stay strong I have nothing to give anymore

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Well all I can say is at least you manage to find someone to have a chance of finding that "connection".

I can't even do that!

At the end of the day if I cannot find someone who will accept me for who I am then I guess I have to aceept that life always has its pros and constantly

Here to chat if you need any help .

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Pros and cons.*

My grammar today haha!

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I just don't know why he just switched off...I changed my tinder profile (where we met) because everyone is saying keep your options open etc was I wrong to do that?

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No, you will know the feeling of true love when you see it trust me. That man will feel the same too!

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What do you mean? I'm

Just confused why he just seemed to have gone cold?

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Hi Kelly, can I ask why you feel you need a man to boost your self esteem? As someone who was in a very bad relationship for 20 years because I thought no-one else would want me, I can tell you that you are looking at this all the wrong way.

My self-esteem hit rock bottom and my anxiety and depression were at their peak when my ex finally left. I've spent the past year building myself back up again. Not anywhere near there yet, but one thing I have learned along the way is that the only person that can give you self-esteem is yourself. If you rely on other people for it, then it is always going to depend on how they treat you, not on how you actually feel about yourself.

I know it is desirable to be with someone, as it's lonely being on your own. But I think you would benefit from just concentrating on yourself for a while. It might take a year, it might take two. It doesn't matter. So long as you put yourself first, and start living your life for you, then someone will just along when you least expect it. 

I'm speaking from real experience here. Forget about men for a while. They will still be ther when you are ready!

Oh and one last thing...try to avoid the ones who instantly promise you the world!! You don't need the world. Just a kind heart. xx