I am 58 years old and married for 38 years i love my husband very much but i have hardly any libido at all. I have lichen sclerosus and vaginal dryness so i anticipate hurting and it makes me extremely tense. I have dried lubricants etc and they do help a little but not always. I just want to feel more spontanious and less old and past it.
Hello Jackie
Do you take vitimin E capsul once a day at all. It is very good for helping you feel better. You can also stick a pin in the Vitimin Capsul, and squeeze out the liquid and rub it all inside of your vagina area. It will help elimnate the dryness. I use this because I cannot take estrogen creams or anything like that because my mother had breast cancer. Another lubricant that is great for those sexual moments is organic coconut oil, that you can buy at the health food store. Just a little bit is all that is needed inside of your vagina and it will not dry up while having sex. As long as you are not allergic to Vitimin E or coconut oil, these are two great helpers for you.
Blessings to you
Lynn
Hi Jackie you have my heartfelt sympathy, I am 60 this year and my husband will be 55 and sex seems to be a constant problem and worry in my life. I lost all of my libido during the menopause so basically lay back and thought of England for about 5 years. Started to get a little interest back about 18 months ago but started with VA beginning of this year.
I worry all the time because I know I am not having enough intercourse to satisfy my husband but the burning 2 days afterwards is so intense I can only do it once a week. I am riddled with guilt for constantly evading having sex and wish he was 6 years older not younger,
Sex has become an unpleasant chore and to be honest I am seriously considering leaving my husband because I don't feel I can cope with this problem month after month and as there is no cure there seems little option.
I tried everything to boost my sex drive including horny goat weed and every other supplement vitamin and potion but nothing had the slightest effect if you stumble across something please post. All these lubricants and moisturisers help a tiny amount to make it bearable but that doesn't make you feel sexy or remove the dread of later.
I wonder if all of us who are suffering "fell in love" with someone new if the symptoms would go away and our bodies would start producing oestrogen again?
Linda, I think I have read testosterone may help in the libido department. Have you had your levels checked? Of course, your anxiety caused by anticipating the discomfort can't be helping. Thinking of leaving your husband sounds extreme. Have you talked with him about the problem you're having?
Hi Lynn, what strength is the Vit E you take. There are all sorts of strengths here in Spain and all sorts of prices lol. I would be grateful for the info, Thanks
Last para, Be an interesting thought. I have exactly the same symptoms. Sex is only a thought here in Spain (joking really) as it is soo hot - I can't be bothered. I go to bed with a wet facecloth wrapped round me which is not very attractive. that will make you laugh
You can use any strength and it will help but start out with 100 UI. I open up two of them every night before bed and squeeze all the liquid and rub it all inside and on my prolapse as well. It works good. You can experiment with what helps you. It is very healing and stops chafing as well.
Blessings to you
Lynn
Oops. I meant to address that to Jackie. It is obvious none of us are very proficient at using computers...with me at the top!
Thanks Lynn, I did many moons ago ask a dr to be referred to the hospital as I thought i had Lichen Sclerosus but when I got to the hospital there were lots of medical students. when the dr asked if I still had the symptoms, I lied, yes, I know, I lied. I couldn't face all these students so I said it had cleared. I can remember them all crowding round me it was sooo embarassing. But I was not sure whether I had this or vaginal dryness. People don't talk about it do they. I didn't have any friends at the time that i could talk to. Has anyone else had these two problems and taken Vegifem, wondering whether it will cure both problems.
Hi Beverley yes had my levels tested and I actually had higher than average testosterone. Remember this was years before any discomfort it was literally like a switch had been thrown to the off position
Hi,have you discussed this with your doctor? I was given Vagifem pessaries to use several years ago and they help tremendously. Tiny tablets that are inserted with an applicator high in the vagina twice a week. They certainly keep vaginal tissues healthy and moist.
Had them before prescribed but its such a flipping faff going to the dr who if you don't speak Spanish she has absolutely no patience with you (they all speak Valenciano here so Spanish is their SECOND language - do you believe!!!) After the second box it was some time before the problem came back so I just went into the chemist and bought some more 20€ for a box so not too bad
Enna, would it be worth a trip to where ever you are from to see some doctors and get straightened out? I can't imagine trying to see a doctor without being able to speak the language. It's bad enough when everyone speaks English!
Well I have all the same problems as everyone replying along with horrific urinary discomfort. It make the vaginal pain seem insignificant. Vagifem seemed to be helping but just suddenly stopped helping at all. I am at a total loss. Sex is impossible. No libido, feel like my insides are on fire. What exactly is prolapse? Anyone following this let me know.
Dont think your symptoms sound like prolapse at all,which could be the uterus or bladder or lower bowel all or separately protruding into your vagina. you would feel a "dropping down" sensation or a bulge. The manufacturers of Vagifem reduced the dose and I found that I used to be free of UTIs while using the prvious dosage,but its not available now,only the new lower dose. Have you seen your doc? or had any urinary tests? He/she should be able to help you with something. Dont suffer in silence...you're worth looking after.
Thank you Marina Dee. I googled prolapse to try to get an understanding of that was and I agree with you - I don't think that is my problem. I've seen my GP two or 3 times, then went to a urologist, then went to my obgyn. Everyone had an opinon - but my obgyn told me they were all wrong. This is VA ... I believe he is correct. So I've followed his recommendations. The Vagifem did seem to help but that prescription ran out. He told me to try the estrogen cream - Estrace. I started using it this morning. It is just a very small amount applied internally and externally. Now I have to "wait and see" if I get any relief from the pain, burning and urinary discomfort. Thank you for your kind words ... we are worth looking after. I've been to the doctor for this problem for months and it just isn't resolved. That is so disheartening ... I read it and feel it from others on this forum too. Why VA seems so "unknown" is beyond understanding. My dr said that he thinks women are reluctant to talk about it. He may be right. So it is up to us ... talk, share, post and hope for good solutions. In addition to the Vagifem (not Estrace cream) I use Vit E and coconut oil for the VA along with D-Mannose powder capsules which I take twice a day to help prevent UTI's (the urologist suggested that) ... I am 64 with a younger man in my life. He is very understanding of my pain and does not want to hurt me. I thank the lord every day for that and him.
have you noticed most of us have younger partners, all understanding. I am debating whether to use Vit E now or just to try Vagifem and see what happens -
If you do decide to use Vitamin E, make sure it is all natural and it doesn't have sugar, starch, lactose, artificial flavour or preservatives etc. It has to be the natural Vitamin E to work. It should say on the bottle
d-alpha-tocopheryl acetate and then you know its the real deal. If you can't find any and need a web site to order just let me know and I will steer you to a web site.
Blessings to you
Lynn
You are right, many of the women posting have mentioned having younger men in their lives. And that does put us in a difficult position at times. But, if a man does not care enough about you to understand, then he probably does not deserve you. Do I wish it were different? Yes, I do. A good friend told me "there is more ways to make love than intercourse." She is right, of course - so we do whatever works. I was given this problem and I've got deal with it. Honestly, openly and with hope. I am going to make sure the Vit E I am using is all natural. I just tried a new brand and I don't think it is - and my problems have gotten so much worse.
pat, it seems difficult to imagine women would have problems this extreme but be reluctant to mention it to their doctors . maybe 50 or 75 years ago, but nowadays what isn't advertised or discussed blatantly on tv, magazines & the radio?? just today they were discussing the female viagra pill, the details of whom it would & wouldn't be appropriate for, pros & cons etc on public tv & radio.(it isn't for post menopausal women apparently).
The squeaky wheel gets the grease. If women don't insist on getting help there will not be any. We have to take it into our own hands. If no one ever complained of a toothache would dentistry ever have been invented?
That existance of the Mona Lisa laser treatment tells me doctors have been aware of the problem for some time and have finally come up with a possible solution. I am intrigued by it and hope to discuss it with my gyno though I'm sure she will say my case is too mild.
So let's all encourage each other to insist that we get relief and not stop till we do!