Hi all the nice people and mum's on here. I have just worked it out. No wonder i end up so sad. Does anyone have a family member who does things that leaves them wondering what their motive is in life? You can't give someone money and pay them off then forget conveniently for the 7th year running to invite that person away on a break oh and a family holiday and miss people out! Well my sister did. She arranged a holiday for her and her family and my mum away, oh you're thinking that's sounds nice, BUT this is the bit - she invites my older sister and NOT me or my husband YET again. It's hurting me. At least try an invite i may say no but at least i got invited. I don't want money, to belong that would feel better! But not only that she did it at Christmas, infront of me. Oh i've been deaf NEVER! I feel i don't belong anyway today aa i'm not a mum, i'm a burden to the family when it suits them and i am meant to feel what? Happy. No. Bloody nothing. Black sheep, no wool!🐑🐏👎😿😠
Hi Sam, does anybody else in your family know this is going on? I appreciate that it’s tough thinking that you’re being victimised worse still when it’s flesh & blood. My advice, for what it’s worth, call her out, let everyone know that you REFUSE to be a victim anymore.
Hi Philip, i spoke to my older sister and apparently she does it not to embarrass us as we have little money. We could be warned in advance and i don’t quite trust that, it’s nonsense. Just ask we can either say yes or no.
Hi Sam - arrange a dinner for all and sundry but don’t invite her. If you want to rub it in, send her an Uninvitation telling her not to bring herself. If you do it, Own It!
Hi Wayne, it’s a good idea but she lives a long way off, which makes me glad. Family’s excuse? Oh you don’t have money! Have they not heard of saving up? It’s an excuse. She’ll never get a holiday invite off me!
Hello my names Leela. I call a supportive helpline like Samaritans or even emergency services. They gave me so much love, attention, help and diagnosed me with depression. Now i’m 50 years old and happily on anti-depressants (happy pills) because i didnt have enough happy cells in my brain so i had to top them up. I feel much better now. Also they let me try out all different kinds of therapy to help me feel better and learn to love myself and forgive myself for all the mistakes i’d made in my life.
Many many people would be heartbroken if you took your life, including me ! And i dont even know you personally but so many of us feel or felt that same way you do now. So we are all in it together. You are not alone. Just ask for help. Call the emergency services and you will realise just how loved you really are…to people who dont even know you personally !
Lots and lots of sympathetic hugs from your new friend Leela Davis xxx
Hi Leela, i have since i put this on here managed to get some more support. There is a mental health company who can help me with CBT type techniques and won’t say anything to my doctor. I think if i can do this it will be of huge help because I have problems with all sorts of different things on a daily basis, due to my Dyspraxia. There may be a clash though because i am already seeing a counsellor separate to this. Thanks for your advice but i have promised myself i will never take antidepressants again, my doctors dumped me on them years back and didn’t even tell me how to get off them. I’ll let you know how i get on.