Just wanted to share my little story so far and hopefully somebody can get something out of this or it would be interesting if anybody has a similar story.
My names is danny, im 20 and 4 months ago I was one of the strongest people around, I was a member of a very high ranking sports team, I had just won 6 individual award for my seasons performance, I had just gained a first in my first year at university, I had a great job, great family and girlfriend.
Three months later I'd lost two family members, my girlfriend( who hurt me in so many ways its unture) and I split up and I lost the person who I talked to about everything. I got rejected by over 20 placement jobs, failed a university exam dropping 50% from my last mark and a parent became seriously ill.
I became a prisoner in my own head, I didnt tell anybody anything, I kept it all to myself and tried to get on with things. 6 weeks ago I had my break down, I had 7 assignments on at the time and no drive at all. I packed in with sport and stopped going to the gym. I lost weight and my mentallity was so different.
Telling a friend was so hard but four weeks later I did, I was embarrased but its helped me and I owe alot to this friend. He sent me to the university counseller which I did not know existed. They has helped me in so many ways giving me treatment for my problems, finding out whats haunting me and just giving me the support I need. This gave me the encouragement I need to go to the doctors and tell some of the closest people around me. University have given me extensions for my work and my sport has resumed llightly now management know my issues. I have a very very long way to go I know that and im sure my ex or the family member that I finished on bad terms would want to see me crying in a ball every night. But I blame nobody, life deals you the cards.
All I want to say if how serious an illness this is and it can effect anybody, do not be scared to ask for help like I was. It can help you so much and if your in my situation so far it could have saved my life. Your not to strong for this nobody is. I thought I was but I wasn't.
Danny that is so sweet of you to share your story. I have always found the hardest part is taking those first steps and asking for help. Well done. I d on't beleive people who once loved you would want to see you in a ball crying. If they did that would not be nice and probably not be love. I know it can be difficult for men to cry, but it really is okay, especially as depression can make use tearful. Perhaps we don't always want to cry in pu blic, but a few tears in solitude can be a great release of pain. I generally feel better after crying, but I limit myself to 5 minutes or so. Good luck with getting your university assignments finished.
Hey, sorry it's actually supposed to say *wouldn't, it's a typo! I wanted to share my story as I reguarded myself as a successful strong person and this can effect anybody as I found out and hopefully it may encourage others 👍 thankyou for your kind words.
Hi Danny. Thank you for posting your story. Just that one bit about the cards life deal clicked with me but perfectly timed right at this moment so thank you
Hi Danny, it is such a help to read your story, I am so glad that you are recovering with support...your post will give many others hope and a reason to feel that they too can feel better...good luck to you young man, and BRAVO X. Sincere wishes to you, DEIRDRE xx
I feel you bro.., have kind of same story, and I am in youre age XD
I was the top of the class student, and was chosen to when of the elite squads in the Miltry, and a girlfriend, but then I had the worse time in the army, people suicide and my mother didn't felt good (she have cancer) and my girlfriend fight with me all the time, I was broken, I barely came out of ther, and when I did all my dreams crashed, from an elite squde to a lame job, KY medical conditions got worth becuse that the Miltry didn't want to made a surgery that I had to go through, and I lived barely until I collapse and been took to the hospital to an emergency surgery, couple of min before I was enter the surgery I received a message from my girlfriend saying she is cheating with me for the past half year, and she hope I will have a good surgery.. I didn't want to wake from that surgery, and everything was even worse, the surgery was not that of success, and she sended me photos of him and things to hurt me for 3 month, and the Miltry didn't want to pay for a doctor that I will see, so the only advise and counsel I got from this group and onther form, we are strong people me and you, we will be happy in the future, we just have to stay the strongest that we can