Well, I’m a 16 year old girl and I have a boyfriend which I adore and have been with for almost 2 years, I don’t really have any friends that are boys but there’s only one other boy I talk to sometimes I’m my RE and Citenzenship lesson and occasionally a little talk around school but we don’t talk that often at all, I found myself once feeling a jealous feeling in my stomache after finding out a girl liked him, but I’ve never had this feeling ever since and it was only once and I couldn’t care less who he goes or with but I feel like because I had a jealous feeling in my stomach that may mean I have a crush... and I feel terrible because I have a boyfriend, this makes me feel sick to my stomach because I never want to hurt him and I know my bf would be devasted to here this, I’m so scared of hurting my boyfriend, I’m not looking for sympathy I just want some advice and what people think, is this a crush or am I over thinking this? Please someone help, please.
Try not to worry yourself. I have had ocd intrusive thoughts for a while now. Luckily after medication and some CBT mine have nearly disappeared. I used to be worried everytime I went out with my friends that I had cheated on my boyfriend even though I had not. Then my intrusive thoughts turned to me thinking I had harmed my kids which was probably the worst 6 months of my life. I don't want to feel like I am giving you reassurance because through therapy I have learned that the best way to deal with ocd is by not being reassured and having to live with the what ifs but we need to remember our ocd and intrusive thoughts attack the people and things we love most. So the fact you are worried and feel bad shows that you won't hurt your boyfriend it's in fact the last thing you want to do. Ocd can make us feel and even believe things that aren't true it's like a bully inside our heads. Are you having any CBT or exposure and response therapy at the moment? Or on any medication? Everyone's different but I tried many meds and I feel once I was put onto 40mg of fluoxitine my thoughts rapidly disappeared.
Thank you, this means a lot, and I’m on medication for my OCD I’m taking sertraline and I’ve been taking them for about three weeks and I feel no different, I’m waiting for CAMHS to except me so I can do CBT but I have to wait for a while. Thank you I really do appreciate it.