Seriously....how in the world does the timing line to meet an incredible man who’s completely nuts about you...right in the throes of Peri and all this anxiety crap and issues that make us nuts?!?!
This is my “luck” right now ladies.
Yes- there are worse things, I get that, but how does one go about exploring what could be the “one” when everyday (almost) it’s another scary issue and health anxiety making it hard to concentrate on anything else??
I don’t want to mess this up! I haven’t dated in FIVE years!!!
How do you explain this stuff to someone??
“Uh..so yeah I have this issue where I get a weird headache in the back of my head and those are the days I’m certain I’m having a stroke. But don’t worry- it’ll pass. Oh yeah and other days I’ll be sure that YOU can hear and feel my heartbeat across the room. You’ll also see me touch my neck every like five minutes or so. Don’t worry, I’m just checking my pulse for no reason because even if it’s NOT accelerated I will think that it is”........
Seriously- who’s gonna wanna deal with that?? 😩😩
Hi you are so not alone I'm in middle of Peri and Have just learnt to take 1 day at a time.... cause today I feel great....tom I wake up with horrible anxiety for no reason crying and feeling out of sorts... I have kept a diary so I can see it's all hormone related.... I'll be walking in a shopping mall an all of a sudden my heart will start beating faster I get hot and start sweating an have to get out there asap.....its awful but I take a 1/4 calming pill when this happens an in 1/2 hour in fine....i dont use them all thr time but they a life saver....then I know it's just hormones...... if someone loves you they'll understand it's not in your control...... Strongs
Well, at our age, if the man is that incredible he will stick around no matter what. If he moves on he wasn't that incredible. And if you feel so bad about yourself, think about why you want to put that upon someone else. You still have qualities that you obviously think are good enough to want to be looking for a relationship, so if they can't accept the bumps and bruises too they really can jog on. Just take one day at a time. Don't make it a life mission and have fun meeting people.
I am very very EXCITED for you! Who knows perhaps this takes your mind totally away from menapause and bring a new dimension. Enjoy every minute....
I have to say, although I’m not in that exact sit, I can completely understand what you are saying..I’m like that about starting a new career and meeting new people in that situation..Like how do people all around me, just go through life doing all sorts of new exciting things when in reality...well, we are in peri- hell??!! I mean, I guess if I were in that situation, I’d say go for it and just do the best you can, be honest as much as you’re comfortable with sharing, and take it day by day. It does really suck but we will get through it. Please reach out if needed and know you’re not alone!
And in reading your post again, i kind of had to laugh to myself because that’s how I feel with new friends..”oh no worries, just checking my heart rate every 2 minutes”..”oh that blood pressure cuff...??!, yep it’s my new fashion accessory”.. Never imagined I’d be dealing with all this crap but here I am!! Ugh..whatever gets us through!!!
A great idea! My husband does not want sax, I guess he got obese and has problems and I need sex like never before. All the aches and pains go away. I actually treated tachycardia with sex once.