First thanks for looking.
I'm a 21 year old male.
I got into an accident on Tuesday and then to calm myself down I went driving on the dual carriageway to calm myself down. Speed calms me down I guess.
Anyway, the person I had an accident with said it wasn't anything big and we can settle without going through insurance. It was a little bump in the car park when her car wasn't moving nor when she was in the car. I hit her "fender" so the car door was a little hard to open. I've been stressing about this since Tuesday and its driving absolutely insane. Its my first accident as well which doesn't help.
Update: Also, that same day I know I wasn't speeding, well there was one point for about 10-15 seconds I was speeding but as soon as i saw the camera I slammed on the breaks and slowed down so I feel 100% sure I wont be prosecuted. Besides I was only doing 10 mph than the limit which according to car manufacturers the speedometer over reads and you don't get flashed until you do 10%+2 over the limit.
Update 2: But because of that i feel as though id lose my license. In my heart I know i wont lose it but the thought keeps running through my mind and I've made myself so scared!
What I'm getting to is, I always overthink and stress myself out. Help me please, how do i stop?
You will not lose your licence unless you already have a certain number of points on your licence which I very much doubt.
It is very unlikely that you will escape getting a speeding ticket if you were doing 10 mph over the limit in a 30 mph zone when you passed through the speed camera. As you do not say what type of road you were driving on at the time of the speed camera incident I have presumed that it was either a 30 or 40 mph zone.
The general rule is that the authorities allow a 10% margin to allow for inaccuracies in speedometers, so in a 30mph zone they will usually allow you 33 mph and in a 60 mph zone 66 mph, and so on.
On the positive side as you were decelerating at the time you saw the camera maybe you were not actually breaking the speed limit (or were within acceptable limits) when you passed it.
Looking at this whole episode in purely practical terms you know, as everyone does that you should not break the speed limit applied on any road, as to do so can carry penalties which can affect your future insurance premiums and carry a stiff fine.
You also should know that driving whilst anxious or whilst lacking concentration can be a dangerous thing to do as it can and does lead to accidents.
You may well have had two very lucky escapes here, which as they are now history you can do nothing about - other than to learn from them and try not to do it again.
Worrying at this stage can serve no useful purpose - so just get on with your life and LEARN.
It was a 50 road and I just got my license so I'm only allowed 6 points. I definitely slowed down to the 50 mark when the lines appeared and even remember the car next to me, a dark (navy) blue bmw driving faster than me when the white lines of the speed camera were below me.
So im 100% sure that i wasnt flashed yet im worrying. In my heart i just overstress and worry to the point of crying my eyes out. Why is that? Any sort of help you can provide is helpful!
Then you already know the answer - you are safe.
If you are still worried about it although you already know the answer it could be due to an underlying anxiety problem.
You do not say much about your life, lifestyle or pre-existing worries which leads me to believe that you already suffered from a nervous disposition.
At the end of the day if you feel that you might be struggling with non-related anxiety issues, then the thing to do is pop down to see your doctor and express your concerns there.
Doctors are about a lot more than just dishing out pills - they are there to listen to you, and if is thought appropriate to treat you or refer you to someone who can.
well i have a mother who is extremely negative and puts me down. I feel bad about almost everything and have an extremely guilty conscience/concious. Also i over stress over everything. I dont know what else i could possibly say.
Another point would be I'm always called good looking and get girl attention but still i feel insecure. that bugs the hell out of me, i get mocked a lot for that by my friends. Oh and i guess im extremely paranoid and always seeking approval.
i have never been so open about myself like this
It is good to talk and compare notes.
In you case having a mother with a negative attitude isn't really helpful.
They do say that the best mix in a person is to be lucky enough to have a balanced pessimistic/ optimistic outlook on life, but few people ever achieve this happy balance.
I think that maybe part of your problem is that you are over-thinking things, rather than accept things as they actually are.
People refer to it as not being 'happy in our own skin'.
I do realise that it very much easier said than done, but have you considered that you may well be as good as, if not better than the next person.
You appear to have everything going for you, so maybe you need to work at developing a much more positive approach to life and just drop the negativity.
Also, I really wouldn't really stress too much about what you perceive other people think of you - what matters is what you think about yourself.
Remember this, you don't need anyone's approval just to be yourself, so maybe you should and try and adopt the approach, 'If they don't like it they can lump it'.
After all, this is about you, and not them.
I agree with everything Archemedes wrote. It is extremely diffiult when you already suffer from anxiety and depression with the added burden of critical parents. I just intend to ignore my parents now but I don't have the burden of living with them. Anyway, think of this, no-one was hurt and you did what millions of people have done before you and will after you, not to trivalize your anxiety. Everyone is justified to feel how they feel. We have all done somehing that has created incredible anxiety at the time but in the end was really nothing of great consequence as time goes by.