Painful Sex - Hymen Problem

Ever since I started having sex two years ago, it has always been painful on penetration. 

The other week I was seen by a gynocologist, who said it was my hymen as it was thick and hadn't properly broken. To give a bit of background, I used to bike ride and horse ride very often, and my partner isn't tiny, so these won't work. 

However they also said basically to deal with it and that it will get better when I have a kid (assuming I have one, and give birth naturally). I don't plan to have a child for another 8+ years, and the pain is already making me very unkeen and is putting a lot of strain on things. 

Shall I go back to the doctor to see if they can do anything about it? Or is there any way for me to try to break it myself relatively painlessly (e.g. numbing creams I can use?)

Thanks in advance. 

Phew!  I - though a man - would certainly say that you should go back to doctor and ask for gynaecologist referral.  If this has persisted for more than a couple of times with your man then I would think that it needs treatment. "A baby will deal with it" sounds appalling advice

Deal with it ??  There may be a better solution. Definitely make an appt with another gynocologist. They all have similer training but a female may be more understanding of the discomfort you are experiencing and the need for pleasure without pain.

If the 2nd opinion is similar in reguards to the hymen, then there is surely a simple procedure to correct the problem. It may not be a good idea to try to correct this with home remedies.

Also, at your next exam, mention your partners size. If the pain is found to come from your partners size, different positions can sometimes work well..

sorry your dealing with this problem... Yes I would see a DR about it and explain all the details.  It might be helped also by taking some sort of muscle relaxer as well.  I used to have the same problem with my ex gf, I am on the rather larger side with my penis and whenever she wanted to have rough sex she would be in soo much pain, so that could be a problem as well.

Good luck to you!!