Im due a phone call from the NHS Wellbeing Team. I know they are going to ask me to go out side for sessions or what ever I CANT! Then they will see it as a refusual I dont know what to do
sessions can happen over the phone, or sometimes people can make visits, its preferable to meet somewhere neutral (outside of home), but i cant see it being that big an issue
I went on their website and you can have one to one but have togo to the clinic im so scared
Katherine, years ago I could not leave the house. My mum dragged me to docs , I was shaking like a leaf, it was tough love but best thing I ever did. I wanted a life back and at some point had to make that move. Please try to get someone to take you, I got meds from doc to initially calm me so I could get out. Went out gradually with mum or hubby, gradually got easier. It's the thought of doing it that scares us to death, we're convinced we can't do it. Please push yourself , once you get there and whoever is with you helps you explain just what a state you are you you will get help. Let me know what you decide, would love you to get help, hate hearing people feeling so hopeless as I did. There is hope and lots of support but you have to make that first big step❤️
aw don't worry they are there to help you. i hope all goes well. xx
I cant see an end to it
There is an end to it believe me. You are right where I was years ago. If you had told me then I would be out the house most days doing normal stuff I would have screamed at you that I wouldn't and that nobody understands. You do need professional help and I know it's so scary the thought of getting out and getting things done. You have to make that leap. Looking back I felt better quicker than I thought possible and then kept pushing myself. I still have days when I think things could be easier but the more you do things the more stronger you get. I feel for you, believe me, your at a stage of thinking it's impossible to get better. Please find positivity from the people who are replying wanting to help and reasure you❤️
Had my phone call which was really hard i now have to wait at least two months for treatment what am I going to do until then ?
2 months is actually pretty quick, usually its 6 months at the earliest. They tend to really not care to be honest what happens in the meantime, for myself i paid for private therapy while i waited - which isnt something we should have to do but sadly thats how it is with the nhs in the state its in
what did you pay for ? What therapy, i cant goout im to scared
i paid for psychotherapy, typically its around £35 to £55 per session. Googling will tell you of any in your area, but theres no shortage of private therapists across the country. As long as your paying them then its up to you how its delivered, your the customer so you get what you want. If you dont want to go outside then you would just arrange something with whoever you want to go with, no big deal to them
2 months is a long time, as jmcg said it's usually longer though, yet more waiting and in the meantime worrying.In the meantime it's a case of finding support from family and friends and posting here etc, try anything. Did you try the online cbt , relaxation , meditation,. Know it hard to focus when your trying to get professional help and the waiting is awful but please stick in there and take fort that people here want to help and reasure you❤️
Meant to say take comfort people want to help😳❤️
Sorry i read it wrong 3 months im now in a panic thinking about the wait i cant take much more
Then be proactive and do something to help, i say this because each and everyone of us here has been in that situation - its a horrible place to be. The only thing to do is try - thats all, just try - things cant change overnight, or even quickly - but they can change - no words from us or any therapist in the world will change it. If you can afford private sessions in the short term, then do that - if you cant then call breathing space or samaritans - thats a start. Then google local free mental health support - some charities offer that. Do one of those things and its the first step - youve got nothing to lose, but if you dont try then youve every chance of losing everything. Noone can force you, everyone will help you, but the first step has to be yours
Jmcg is right. 3months is a long time, by fighting this you could make great progress while waiting for professional help. Know the thought of going out is awful but as jmcg said we have all felt this hopeless but have to make that first step. Know you don't want to hear that, but you can do it. I locked myself away, drank myself stupid, and worried my parents and hubby stupid. I had to be dragged to support group, doctors therapy, I hated everyone at time but it was tough love. The fear is worse than doing it. Please do as sujested and look for any help in your area. 20 yrs ago I made that move as I couldn't talk to anyone on forums or reach out to anyone, had to get out, thought I would die( I didn't) . When you say you can't go out, you can, tell yourself that, get someone to go with you. I'm in my 40's and still go everywhere with my mum, on good days I go out alone, far cry from when I was locked away scared I was going crazy. Please do something positive, do it now , don't put it off❤️