paranoia and anxiety. I never learn!

Mental health
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I had a situation earlier but I just don't know if my mind is just convincing me things which aren't real.

I just had full blown row with someone I thought was trying to rip me off. I was convinced even tho maybe I'm wrong. I just couldn't see past the idea that dis guy and his boss were in cahoots to rip me off. The idea of this just feeds into my insecurities about being controlled by others.

Basically I'm a fast food delivery man and while I was parking up I left handbrake off while my door was open. It basically prized the back rear of the bumper of a colleagues car back. I was devastated.

Also my boss is probably the rudest boss u could meet. He takes no prisoners but will put u down in front of the other staff.

It's only my 3rd day. I was at the computer earlier and havn't got to grips with it yet so I remarked to the boss as he was processing the next order which was mine. I said who's is that? And he said cant u see it's urs and walked off. It was a lot ruder than that but you get the idea.

Later on he was explaining to me in his usual sarcastic way about something I'd done wrong but I answered back which he didn't like.

So anyway I told the guy who's car I had damaged and he came out had a look and pushed it back into position. I apologised.

Anyway later on he and the boss were talking in this store room about something and the guy gestured to me with his hand come here, I'm gonna get someone to fix it I'll tell u later how much. Later on he told me it was gonna cost £100 for repair and labour. I said I was broke and tried to bargain eventually saying 90 to which he said no. It must be £100.

Anyway I did a delivery and came back and thought it ain't gonna cost that much. I bet he and the boss were in cahoots to rip me off so they could both split the £100. I bet he knows someone who'll fix it for free.

I was convinced and cudnt see it any other way.

So we argued and are going thru insurance instead cos I refused to give him the £100.

What I wanna know is should I have just accepted that it wud cost £100 to repair and put it down to experience? I do seem to get myself into scenarios where I think I'm being played and is it feeding into my anxiety?

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You could have taken pictures and got an estimate or described the damage to get an estimate.

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don't pay him a penny he is just taking the P*** if the damage was that bad let him try and make a claim 

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I mean If you are responsible, you should pay what you are asked.. Now don't pay without seeing an estimate, but I highly doubt there's some massive scheme going on. If you damaged something of mine, I would also expect you to pay the full amount. I would find it disrespectful to haggle. Then again, if he didn't have an estimate he has no idea how much it would truly cost.

Maybe look for another job. This one clearly isn't going to work out since your boss seems like a majorly negative person.

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I did take a pic when he wasn't looking. I know someone who wud do it for half that so I told him and he said no, I'm going to do it from my mechanics. Honestly the damage was not worth 100.

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I'm glad I argued the toss in the end cos I had this feeling. But then that feeling cud just be paranoia. Anyways I'm not going back.

U know tho I was starting to enjoy it cos I was mixing with lots of others and this is an area I need to work on cos I hav social anxiety.

I'll look for another driving job.

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Yeah and he also said he needed the money tomorrow and I don't have a spare 100quid right now. I said weds but he said tomorrow.

I'm not going back just got bad vibe off the boss.

Thanks for responding.

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He probably felt he should choose the mechanic in case there were problems later. Plus he felt you shouldn't benefit at his expense

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Hi Phil you have just proved to yourself mate that it was not paranoia he was clearly trying it on well done for taking a picture make sure you keep hold of that just in case you are 100% correct on this . jobs a goodin   

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Thanks.