Partner with anxiety has cut me out

Mental health
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I've been seeing a girl for approx 7 months. When I met her she told me she had PTSD and anxiety but during the time I've been with her, it's never really come to notice.

Everything has been absolutely perfect and we fell in love so quickly and she told me she could never ever imagine losing me from her life.

Approx 2 weeks ago when we had plans to meet, she cancelled on me saying she felt really anxious and she needed to be at home so I told her that was fine and I hoped she was OK etc.

Over the following few days she hardly text me and kept telling me that she was in a really bad head space and her anxiety had come back.

She then cancelled on seeing me on my birthday, which we had planned to have a fun day out. This really upset me because I felt like I'd done something wrong. She agreed to meet me for a drink close to her home and we had a chat for a couple of hours. - she basically said she needed some head space because she was feeling very anxious and she needed to focus on getting herself better ready for her new job and she didn't need any dramas from me. She told me she wasn't going anywhere and she still loved me but I needed to give her some time.

She then ignored me for the next week.

Yesterday she text me saying that she couldn't trust me and she didn't want a relationship like that and she was sorry.

So I rang her and we spoke on the phone for an hour. I poured my heart out to her explaining how I felt and she just said that due to her anxiety she cannot give me anything right now and she doesn't want a relationship and she can't trust me. She said she still loves and cares about me but she can't give me anything more than a friendship right now.

Shortly after our phone call she text me to say she wanted to cut all contact and she needed to be on her own. And now she's blocked me on all social media accounts and on whatsapp.

What am I supposed to do? / think? This is literally killing me.

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Sounds like it's not about you,but about her own self. I know how difficult it is to try and sustain a relationship when anxiety is almost taking over your life.

its hard to give to another when you can't even help yourself.

She may have been wanting to end the relationship before but had a hard time telling you.

She needs time to herself now. As much as it may hurt, you need to move on with your life.

If the relationship was good for both of you, you would still be together.  But one of you wanted out and you can't force a person to want to be with you. 

In general, when a relationship gets to the 6-7 month mark, it will either survive or it won't.

Keep busy , it helps!

It hurts for a while, but you Will feel better!  

Hang in there.😉

 

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Thank you for your reply.

So you don't think that this is all a result of her anxiety? You believe she's acting this way because she never wanted to be with me in the first place?

Despite the fact even yesterday on our phone call, she still said she loved me and wasn't ruling out anything in the future, just right now she needed to be on her own.

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It's really hard to say to be honest. Men and women will both say anything or use anything to get out a relationship they no longer want. With that said... It is also hard to sustain a relationship in the depths of an anxiety episode. I'm currently in a bad one. My gf of over a year has been by my side 100%. I love her to pieces, yet I still think of how she would be better off not having to deal with me in this state. I say give her time and space.