Past

Mental health
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hi everyone need some advice should my partner know all about my past , who i was, who i had sex with ect ... also how many of you are in a relationship n know everything about each others past . advice n opinions on this would b great x

2

If you see this as a long term relationship, and if they do to as well, i vote yes. ASSUMING otherwise i would feel out the relationship.

3

my husband and i are married 5 years now. we have a very good relationship and its because we came clean from the start. that way if he had heard something about me or i heard something about him, we already knew and it was already dealt with so we could just carry on with life…

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In my own mind what i did BEFORE is my private information. What good will this info do

  • cause problems, jealousy, recriminations. Will he, by the same token tell you everything
    -about his past. you are starting a new relationship and i don’t believe you should bring
    baggage to it. This is just my personal opinion and no doubt other people have their own
    views.
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HI Lauren, i have been married 40 years, and what does the past matter, as long as no children are involved, then what was in the past has past, look to the future,and make your own memories, things that happen through your life are in the past and bare no relavents to you happiness, just enjoy each other as life is too short for confessions.

6

hi annette thankyou for your advice ita just very hard being someone who suffers with anxiety and depression u over think everything i slepted with someone i really shouldnt have an my partner is close to him we are always together but feel like lying to him and betrayding his trust this was so many years ago 10 maybe more its necer borthered me before so i dont know why it is now. i always think to my self i shouldnt have to tell him my past if we split up and i got with someone id have to tell them to if unoe what i mean . and also it only matters that we are truthful within our relarionship nothing else matters but then the other part of me feels like we have to tell each other every little thing so we can have a lasting relationship…

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i really think you have to weigh the pro’s and con’s. you are right ! If you “offload” all the
“baggage” from other relationships all those years ago - is he going to do the same? What
will happen to that information if you break up/. will it be used against you in an argument?

8

sorry i pushed the wrong button before i finished lol there are so many things to
think about. i, myself, think that what happened before is not for sharing - are you
thinking of getting married.? think about it very carefully is he going to be as honest
or just gloss over it? If you think you might break up, then perhaps keep it to yourself
as it could be more ammunition. there are nice men out there - you just need to
really know him inside and out and then perhaps go with your gut instinct.
Best of luck Lauren and when you have made a decision, before you implement it
sleep on it to see if you change your mind. Take care Carrob x

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hi thankyou for replying . i thought i was pregnant bk in april and it brought all this on made me think do i need to b honest with him to enable us to be a happy little family… iv spoken to friends n family n they gave said people have done worser things in their past n their partners still dont know the past is in the past n thats were it should stay.f i told him our relationship would b over… i have never told anyone about parts of my past so y do i feel like i should tell him im litcherly in a vishious cicle however it dosnt stop me really from living my life so isit really nesasery to say anything?.. xx