Hello everyone!
I think my problem lies with the frenulum because retracting my foreskin when flaccid is smooth and pain free (as if there were no problems) but it does pull the head down a lot. However, when I get an erection my foreskin barely retracts at all naturally. If I pull it back when erect, it does go all the way at a bit of a stretch but will bounce back to cover the head rapidly. Basically, I think my frenulum is really short. Short frenulum is, I believe, the reason why the head doesn't swell up to its full potential and just looks out of proportion to my penis.
All I want is to be able to get an erection 'normally' where the foreskin just slips behind the fully swollen head. But I don't understand how, if it's capable of full retraction then why doesn't it do it when I get an erection? Without the help of my hand?
I am currently working on stretching it but I'm on the fence whether that's just a myth or not, just doing it out of hope I guess.
Also if it helps then I'm a virgin, 21 mainly because this stuff has seriously knocked my confidence
Need your advice people!
Thanks!
First of all. I want to thank you for coming on here and letting us talk with you. Now where did you get what is normal. Do you have any problem with masturbation. Does it feel good. I don't tell to many people about me but I went through puberty very early. I was 9 1/2 and I had a full mustache. I had hair in places that I should not have had at my age. At that age I did not know what the crab was going on. My parents were older and all I got from them was don't worry or live it alone. They never talked about sex. It took me a while to grow into my body and at the time I was in my late teen ( 18 ) we had peep shows. That is were I lean what sex was and also masturbation. The reason I am saying this have you ever seen any porn. I remember seeing some not cut men that when oral was giving on them they pull the for skin back. It never showed the head just the tip. I don't think you have a problem. I think that is just the way you were made. There are some men that can't ever pull there for skin back. It is very hard for them. For you own good I would get it out of your head that it is not normal. When you start having sex you will see that it will work the way you want. You need to be confident and enjoy life. I don't know if this will help but you can go on a porn site and put in un cut men. It will show you that the men have no problem using what they have. Good luck Ken.
Unless you get pain or bleeding when you masturbate, you are unlikely to have any problem during intercourse.
Although I believe it is possible to stretch the main foreskin if it is too narrow, I don't know of any way that the frenulum can be lengthened. It can be freed up with a minor surgery called frenuplasty to treat frenulum breve if this is really what you have.
Don't ever think or take advice that full circumcision is needed. This would take away a lot of pleasure sensitive nerve endings.
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IN SHORT: Every penis is individual and this is you your frenulum is meant to be and you cannot do a great deal about it. However, you can stretch your foreskin, but you may end up with something that you may not have chosen, or may damage the skin of the foreskin making it susceptible to further injury.
*It is when you say - " it does pull the head down a lot " - suggests to me that your foreskin is out of proportion to the head of your penis when you are erect. I had this issue with my penis, but mine was caused by phimosis and it took me the best part of 4 DECADES+ to achieve a 'normal' looking penis. For this you can either:-
> see a Urologist who specialises in foreskin issues {NO circumcision} to get their opinion
> learn about how to stretch your foreskin safely - if you choose this, the only way I think this can be achieved is to take a slow gradual approach, as, you need to avoid ANY negative reactions from your foreskin. This will likely mean you see no real benefit for 6 to 9 months, or perhaps even several years of using a regular, safe stretching regime
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