People keep telling me I'm not smart enough to study medicine

Mental health
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Hello,

For as long as I can remember, I've wanted to study medicine when I go to College. When my Dad got diagnosed with cancer, it made me think more about what I want to do with the rest of my life. I talked to the nurses in the cancer ward and they were telling me all the different fields there are...and that they think I'm smart enough to do it.

He sadly passed away just over a year ago, and since then, I've had my Junior Cert ( an exam we have in Ireland). I did well, comparing that they started a few weeks after my Dad died. Since then, I've had to pick my subjects for my leaving cert. This is the exam that decides what I'm going to do with my life . I picked Biology, Chemistry, History and Business. I plan on doing German outside school, but it will still count towards my exams. ( I will also have to do English, Maths and Irish).

Over the last 6 months...some members of my family have kept telling me that I won't be able to do it. Basically calling me stupid, and that I shouldn't aim that high. My mother has been really supportive, so have my Grandparents. I know I shouldn't care about what other people think...but what they are saying keeps going over in my mind. It has been keeping me awake the last few nights. What if I end up doing terrible, and working in some crappy job for the rest of my life. What if I amount to nothing??

I know I'm only 16, and I have plenty of time to worry about this..but I'm just terrified that I'll end up a failure. I feel bad enough about myself without these people passing these comments. I know I'm probably overreacting, but I just don't know why someone ( especially family) would make comments like this.

I don't know if this all makes sense to people...or if I'm just overreacting about nothing. I hope someone has some advice on what I should do next.

Sorry for rambling,

Jack

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Follow your bliss and dont let anyone in this Earth tell you otherwise. 

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Jack,

  It makes perfect sense because there are always going to be people in this world who make negative comments either out of jealousy or who knows what. 

 Be true to yourself and You FOLLOW YOUR DREAM!

 I can tell you honestly when I was younger I thought everyone was so much smarter than me but as I got older I realized it wasn't true it was just my lack of confidence.  Some people act confident and intelligent when they are simply just more full of themselves , . Not necessarily smarter....... and that includes a lot of doctors I have come across. 

You can do this!   Your success will depend on your drive to achieve!   Don't think about or worry what others say. My brother was in average student, but because he had a drive and determination he became a doctor. 

 my father-in-law  was a high school principal always said "I will take a C student who is doing his absolute best and working hard over an A student who could care less about school "

 listen to your mother and grandparents! 

What if thinking is not factual, but only fleeting thoughts that are based on fear. 

Something I think could really help you are called Positive Self-Affirmations.

Find them on you tube. just search for them, use earbuds, and listen.  

Listen as often as you can!! The more you hear them, the more your subconscious believes them. Several to choose from.  

You are going to find that throughout your life, there will always be  people  who are negative, insensitive, envious , etc.

Its YOUR Life....You keep moving forward no matter what.  

Try to associate with people who bring you up in life, who have your back, who encourage you, like your mom and grandparents. 

Did you know that Henry Ford, inventor of the car, was told he would never amount to anything by family members!  He didn't let what they said prevent him from reaching his dream.

Same with Bill Gates, inventor of Microsoft, and failed several times, kept going,now a billionaire,

They never gave up!

NO More "What if " thinking.

Be a fighter for yourself and your Future! 

Listen to the affirmations! 

You CAN do this!!  😁❤️

 

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We don't choose our family. If they offend you ignore them and PROVE them wrong. You can do it.🙏 Don't lose sight of what you want. You are not dumb. You are a smart young 16 yr old. Don't listen to the negative feedback and focus on those that do matter. Your mothers and grandparents opinions. No one should be belittling you. You won't end up with a crappy job. Remember, "You can't have a positive Life in a negative mind." Ignore the worry's and focus on affirmations. Tell yourself. 💪"I am capable of doing this." Your Mother, Grandparents and Cancer ward Nurses support you and believe in you." It's the only thing that matters. Believe in yourself too you can make this happen.🙌

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Hi jack you follow your dreams don't worry what people say . you only got one chance in life you go for it could change people lives 💜

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You have just showed how much you care about your future by posting here, you sound very bright and articulate for your age . Wish I had the confidence at your age to reach out and ask peoples opinion, I didn't have the confidence as people at school made me feel unconfident. As I've got older i see you should ignore negative people and surround yourself with people who are positive and want you to do well in life . Believe you can achieve your dreams, make yourself and your family proud and laugh at the people who said you couldn't do it. Wish there were more young people who cared about the there future . It's natural to worry , especially about what you want to do with your life. Good luck❤️

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So true edwina 👍