everyone says its only you who can help your self but they dont understand i dont know how or where to start every task sets off my anxiety attacks so i dont do them because im scared and people dont understand
I am sorry you feel this way right now. I got a free gift from a catalogue and would not open it because I did not have the confidence in case I could not set it up properly. It is a shopping trolley that`s all. As soon as I got a visitor I asked them to do it for me otherwise it would still be in the bag. I used to be a senior career person and now I dread even answering the telephone as I have zero confidence. So maybe I understand just a little of how you feel.
im 23 an havnt left the house for a year AT all because of my anxiety
i dont go upstairs because of my anxiety
i dont have any visits or my anxiety will kick off
any people trying to set goals for me and sayying yoh have to help your self and i just cant anymore.
i been fighting with anxiety my whole life but this year it has gotton out of control and i cant fight it no more
Leah,
I completely understand. To someone not experiencing anxiety they don’t understand it isn’t like a light switch that can be turned on or off. The first step is recognizing that how we feel has to do with our thoughts. I have GAD and worry obsessively and although I had my anxiety in check for years a health scare set it off again and I feel I am at square one. The key is first acknowledging it comes from within and then taking the baby steps needed to come out of it. My mistake is dwelling on thoughts and worries and my baby step one is when a thought comes into my head not to dwell on it or give it much focus. We can’t control what comes into our minds but we can control how much time we sit with that thought.
Baby step 2 for me is deep breathing exercises. Making sure I stop and take deep cleansing breaths especially when the anxiety builds and I am feeling the knot in my stomach and tingling in my arms. Sitting with that breath and focusing on the in and and out of the air in my lungs until the feeling passes.
When people say “only you can help yourself” they mean the level of commitment to the baby steps you set to help yourself. It is incredibly hard to focus on breathing when it feels like the anxiety is consuming us but we have to try and keep trying. Try setting up small steps for yourself like using visualization or guided imagery when you feel anxious. Whatever sounds interesting to you. Stick with it each time you get anxious.
I find that every task I do causes anxiety when I have let the anxiety go too far. When I should have addressed it sooner but I waited too long.
People say stupid things, always have done and always will. I used to go to a quiet cemetery and scream loudly because of it but then houses were built nearby so I have to sit and stew. Only you understand how you feel so only you know what can make you feel a little better. At the end of each day, as I lay in bed, I think back on the day and if anything made me feel good. If there ever is anything then I try to do that thing again the next day. It can be something like having a bath, other personal care like varnishing your nails. A lot of us spend far too much time alone these days but if you have anyone who makes you feel good then that may help.