Is there a reason why us ladies don't seem to be properly educated in all things menopausal? I remember having lessons early on in comprehensive school with regards to periods and having babies, so why aren't we pre warned about this? I naively thought that being menopausal meant you had to start carrying a small fan around with you!!! Surely if we were told what to expect it wouldn't be such a shock and not half as terrifying?
I know!!!! I stupidly just thought you got a hot sweat in the middle of the night and your periods stopped.... Oh if only... 
Hi Louise, I totally agree and have said to women I know loads...I would have got fitter in my 30s and prepared.....waving a fan sounds lovely compared to this um experience lol
The sad thing is, I was totally super fit until a back injury meant I couldn't do my beloved zumba anymore! That's when all my problems started.
You are so right. I feel so out of control. I know that I need to be strong and power through it but it just seems easier right now to curl up in a ball. I didn't know that I was going to loose all rational thinking. I am going through a divorce and having to start a new life for me and my 12 year old son and met a very nice man. But I will drive him away if I can't get a grip on this. Until I came across this forum I thought I was just weak. I stayed hone from work again today. And I actually was in a battle with my head because I need to work. But my hormones won again. I am so disappointed in myself. But I am scared I will start crying at work.
I completely agree. I thought Menopause was only some hot flashes after you stopped having your period. To this day I have not had one hot flash. If I had known what life would be like for me I would have tried to prepare the best I could. Also I might not have gone to the ER every month for 6 months telling all the doctors I wAs dying of a heart attack. We need to be more prepared. I'm definitely educating my 21 year old daughter about what is to look for when she is my age
Debbie❤️
Don't be ashamed to cry. It does me good. It's a great way of releasing some of that tension. I never try and stop myself now. If people can't accept it, stuff 'em! What you need are some really good friends around you to offer the support you need. You will get used to these feelings and be able to cope with them better, but talk about it as much as you can, don't bottle things up. It's hard not to look at this in a negative way. I have trouble with this myself. As time goes on and it becomes 'normal', you'll find yourself thinking more positively. I hope this has helped. All the best to you x
Funny you mentioned this. My 11 year old brought Permission slip home from school yesterday for sexual and family education. I remember taking the class also in school. So it would make sense to have pre/menopausal classes offered since it is part of reproduction. I believe that docs didn't know enough about it and a lot still don't. Menopausal information is still being discovered to this day and I don't think there will ever be enough information. I had no clue of declining and imbalanced hormones can literally break our minds and bodies down. If I had never looked into hormones and found the blogs and forums, I would have fallen off the deep end. Its nothing more frustrating than going to docs after docs feeling sick to be told there is nothing wrong when clearly you know it is.
Thank you so much. Unfortunately I don't have any friends. Mostly just acquaintances. I think they just got tired of hearing it so I don't talk to anyone. I just stay in my bedroom alone and cry. I am 49 and due to financial reasons I live with parents. Most people will just say I need to be strong. My nights are ok but mornings are really bad. I hope talking to all these other woman will help me. I am truly very scared.
I totally agree. I have found it mystifying that the real deal about the menapause has been a great big secret. My mum or my mums friends never said boo about this to me and I feel as if I am being overly edgy about it. But I know I'm not the symptoms are real and they are not good. Hopefully they will abate with time. :-(
Can you imagine if all these young girls know what to expect it would scare the heck out of them. My sister went through menopause and didn't experience anything. Why isn't there a medicine to help us out. We got the short end of the stick. It's very scary
Well, you'll always have someone to talk to on this site x
I completely agree with you!!!!!! There are many, many, more symptoms that comes with Premanpause.
It would give them time to prepare though. Also, they'd know that they weren't alone experiencing it. Knowledge is power!
Yes some of theses symptoms can be very scary, it makes us feel like we have something else really bad going on with are bodies. Not fun!!!!!
I absolutely agree Louise. I thought it just me and your periods stops that's all. Perhaps they think it is too soon for us to know about menapause at that age but they could at least briefly mentioned . Also you see pregnancy support groups, over 59''s this that. Why there isn't peri-meno support groups in health clinic's and GPS! ? Sad really.
Also, when you mention it to older lady friends, they say, 'oh yes, I went through that', and it makes me feel like screaming at them, 'well, why didn't you warn me?'!!!!!!!
Hi Louise, A very good question indeed!!! A warning earlier on sure would be helpful!!!! I've been on HRT since I was 33, I honesty thought when I reached 61 I should have been able to get off of them with no problem. I had NO idea what hell I was in for...I am back on them, and will stay on them from now on!!! It's crazy!!!
Well said !
My sister is going through it now and have some symptoms but she hasn't expeirenced anything like I have. My daughters are 11 and 20, I tell my 20 year old what I'm going through. She may not expierence it like me but if she does I want her to know some of the things that can happen to her. This whole thing blindsided me. It hit me overnight and I had no idea what was going on. My mom experienced it pretty bad but never went to doctors because she don't like them so she never knew anything about it. When I tell her how im feeling she thinks back and able to tell me her experiences related to the same symptoms.