Perimenopause and loss of apetite

Women's health
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Hi Lovely ladies

i am 3 yrs in peri, past months my periods have become lighter, this month no period, I also feel nausea, loss of appetite  at Times and other times I eat a lot, I feel also depressed at times, the symptoms comes and goes, even my blood pressure fluctuates, high, low, normal...my body is doing all sorts, lost my libido, my boyfriend also walked out 2 months ago, as I was always tired and didn't want to make love and it ends in big argument.

My body has changed so much, I get all sorts of symptoms,  and some days I'm also happy and normal, and have no symptoms.

Some days I also feel like my life is over, depressed and sadness. I have no drive to do much apart from daily routine, 

my boyfriend is not supportive so he left and I don't even miss him as I am much happier in my little world of Me, the new person and body  I'm trying to understand. It's very stressful this changes as I was always a happy and bubbly woman. 

Hoping all this will pass soon.

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Hello Kadija, big hugs to you, I am going through the same as you describe, I can go for weeks feeling fine, and then out of no where I physically feel the peri symptoms coming on - anxiety, nausea, cramps, dry mouth no matter how much I drink - does anyone else get this?? so depressed like a cloud comes over me, no appetite for food or anything else for that matter...it is awful! And I'm having a particularly bad day today, so I always come to this forum for reassurance I'm not going mad!! Sometimes it's pre menstrual, but other times like now it's in the middle of my cycle and there is no real reason, so I was interested to read that before you actually go through menopause, there are actually surges of oestrogen that can peak to levels higher than any other time, and this saps the body's resources and limits the amount it's ability to produce other hormones - like seratonin, dopaine, adrenaline, so these all crash which is why we feel awful, so I'm trying to make sure I take vitamins and supplements and eat well ((even though I don't feel like it) which does help - though some days its so bad you just have to ride it out, and take reassurance that you're not alone x

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Hi Karen,

I get dry mouth too, been tested for diabetes, it's negative. My sugar lever is low.

I wake up with a very dry mouth, I drink lots of water but doesn't help. I so eti es get bouts of nausea, loss of appetite and at times bouts of hunger and eat lots.

Right now I'm sitting and talking to my son and at time I forget what I've said, it's like a brain fog. Some days I feel very sleepy and sleep for 10 hours and also  some days I have problems getting to sleeping I  Barely fall asleep.

 It's a big worry, as at times i feel like I have a serious illness, yet after a few days or week I am symptomless. It's been going on for 3+years now. I am 50yrs old.

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Right interesting to know you also get the dry mouth, do you get night sweats as well? Sometimes when I'm going through one of these spells, I wake in the night covered in sweat, like as if I'd been in a sauna! And it's freezing outside, so weird, and I have really vivid intense dreams...I also get the brain fog, constantly walking into rooms forgetting what I needed..causes anxiety when I go out....but then as you say it can then go after a few days, making you wonder what all the fuss was about!

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Rrrr bless you kadija... I know just how you are feeling, mines been 4 years now, and had my last period in march, but seem to still get those symptoms  before you have a period tho😩..

Sorry to here your boyfriend walked out on you, if that’s how he is, then he don’t have any feelings for you chic, as other wise he would stick by you, it’s not our fault we are having to go through this crap, we never asked for it, yet we have to put up with it, I wish we could give men a dose of what we feel, and see what they do, they wouldn’t cope..

I must admit I’m glad that I live on my own, as if I had a man in my life I think I would of killed him by now 😂...  I to feel like this menopause as taken over me as well, I use to love going out with the girls every weekend, but now I look in the mirror and I’m not the same person any more, 😏 I was suppose to go out for dinner tonite with my daughters but I just can’t be botherd, I just want to be at home, I know we are surpose to push our self to do things, BUT when you don’t want to that’s it, you don’t..

But all the symptom you have point out is just our I feel to, and I have high blood pressure, heart burn, dry mouth, skin so dry I can’t keep up with it, aches and pain in my joints, I’m on antidepressants as I got really bad, and so on, I just hope like you that one day it will all stop, and hopefully feel some what normal, if that will ever happen again, I’d like to think so.. big hug chic, keep talking on here we are all here to help each other out 🤗xx

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The symptoms that come mid cycle are due to ovulation.  Get a period app for your phone,, it will allow you track things. Usually starts around day 10 from start of your period.. peaks at day 14.

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Hi Dawn

big hugs to you and hope you are not feeling too bad today. Woke up feeling better, but bloating and mild abdominal pain, my tummy feels like I'm going to have my period but nothing is happening this month...today no nausea, manage to put up Xmas decoration up, son has booked a table for dinner tonight and hopefully I feel like it. This menopause drains your body of energy, and puts you in some kind of depression. My doctor keeps giving me diazepam but have not taken it as I'm trying to cope without medicine for as much as I can. 

I use to get bad headaches, breast pains, hot flashes, but since taking 1000mg evening primrose oil daily these symptoms have totally stopped. It's been the best meds for me. Now I have to find ways to cope with the nausea. My mum tells me to sip ginger tea, will have to try. 

However my worst symptoms have stopped, it was the migraine headaches and breast pains and tiredness. Now I rarely have these since taking evening primrose capsules. It's also improved my skin which use to be dry and itchy. 

As for my boyfriend I'm not thinking much about the break up as he wasn't understanding of my problems. I'm better off on my own. I'm sure. The breakup also helped with my symptoms as he was stressing me a lot and made me feel down. Now I dont have to think about his issues....lol...

 

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Well done kadija, you seem to be a strong lady, and if you are feeling a bit better now your boyfriend as gone, then you must no in your heart it wasn’t right for you then,my friend had breast cancer and her partner left her because of that, what is wrong with these men..

Evening primrose mite have a look in to them after Xmas and give them a try, as my skin feels alfull all the time, so dry..

Hope all goes well for you over Xmas, and you have a good time 

( if you can) as you deserve it, one day hopefully things will be good again, big hug to you, and all the ladies out there going through this crap 🤗xx

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Hi Dawn

have a lovely Xmas too. We are all here for one another... 

Try the evening primrose, it does help as a few ladies I know going thru  menopause have tried it and it's help them a lot. 

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I know this is a few months back but I have these symptoms too and now I’m convinced I have a disease. Loss of appetite, lost weight and depression and anxiety. I have had depression and anxiety in the pass now seems horrible. Can you give me your insight? Also how long did you have loss of appetite? I didn’t know it was a perimopause symptom!

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Hi Justine

Welcome.

ive had and have all of your symptoms..12lbs wt los, dry mouth, depression- very bad, anxiety.

I just know that its all tied in with the hormones. Ive been searching for answers for 1 yr now. Im 53, turning 54, and guessing it will continue if i dont figure it out.

I just wanted to reassure you that weight loss is not too uncommon. most women gain weight, but for me and you and others, its the nausea, dry mouth upset GI tract etc etc..

i could go on but ill stop for now  rolleyes

xoxox

 

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Hi Kadija ! 

I’m so happy to finally encounter women that are going through what I’m battling. 

I have been in premenopausal for three years also but, now I really don’t feel well . I too have lost my appetite and am going through anxiety. I’m afraid because I cannot afford to lose weight, I only weigh around 100 pounds ( maybe) I haven’t received my menstration for three months but I feel all the aches and pains . HELP ME GET THROUGH THIS mentally or I’ll go crazy? 

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Anna

Im here to tell you that not all of us women gain weight during this time.

For me personally i dont know how one can gain weight with the nausea and anxiety pretty much every day.

Women who are thinner they say this hits harder in many ways. 

YOU need to eat more im serious. I at food like a job. I hate it and end up not eating much when you hae adrenalline or depression or anxiety your body simply isnt settled and content and warm and fuzzy. You feel wretched, and the lack of appetite is telling you this.

I wish wish wish i could trade places with any lady who is gaining a little weight because this too think look is really a drag. Its an unhealthy look, drawn, haggard, unwell. People think im doing it on purpose which really is annoying.

overweight any day over underweight.

Please eat though, you cant keep losing. 

x0x0x0x0

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Thanks for replying!! Yes I already struggled with anxiety before now it’s so bad I just went on antidepressants last week hoping it will help!!! I get so anxious/depressed and then I worry there’s something really wrong with me with all these symptoms. Good to know I’m not alone and hoping the antidepressants work!!

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I am hoping that they help you, I dont take anything as nothing really helped me only adding more to the already everchanging weirdness im feeling in menopause.

If the AD work for you then you scored! I am an advocate for whatever works for a person. All of the mood problems seem to worsen during these times. 

there is lots of support here and you will find it most certainly. Let me know how you are doing and if its helping.

x0x0x0

 

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Thank you so much means a lot to me!!! All the support is much needed in times like this!! XXX OOO

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It's  been 8  months of nausea,  no appetite, dizzying spells,  sweats throughout the day, my hair gets soaked and my upper body  (not sure if they are hot flashes). i have lost 15 lbs in the past 3 months,  just cannot eat  much . nausea the second i wake up,  and most of the day & go back to bed without it .

i see women posting they have had nausea  for years ... i wouldn't survive that long at this rate.  not sure what would be worse weight gain or weight loss.

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hi sammy

Nausea is awful. I mostly am with out much appetite and take advantage of moments of hunger, and i just mainly get food in me because could also literally would not eat if i could get away with it. (except for unhealthy chips or a recess now and then)

its all mood related/hormonal related. When my mood improves so does my interest in food so its chemical/hormonal.

I used to weigh 130 and its a good weight for me, now im 118 and look icky. im 5 7'

I can only say that i would MUCH rather be over the weight than under by far. I think its healthier and looks better than scrawny and unealthy. Its a scientific fact also that women with more weight survive longer, and have much more estrogen receptors..when your really thin it super hard to deal twith this stuff.

Another symptom that i have that goes with the no appetite is always a dry mouth, no amount of water will quench the thirst or the dry mouth. Its the anxiety and adrenaline that is always running.

x0x0x0

 

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thanks mauiblue!

I too am thirsty non stop!  i was convinced  and still am partially that I have some illness until i found the s site! 

I feel like my kids think i am crazy and imagining all these symptoms. 

I still have my period every month. although it is earlier every month. 21 days cycle as apossed to my normal 31 day.  cramps are brutal most months , which i never had previously.   

Any idea of what symptoms may indicate that periods are about to end?

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Hi for at of you suffering with nausea, I can recommend motillium - I’ve taken it over the past couple of days and it’s helped and also gave me some appetite back, I’m in Ireland and got it from my pharmacist, who gave me 2 weeks supply, though you can get it online too, it’s just to be used with caution if you have a heart condition. I’m relived I’ve found something that can help me when the nausea gets bad, so hopefully it will help you too x