Sorry for the blunt question, but does anybody feel like they literally go "mental" at certain times of the month? Life at home is pretty "rollercoastery" at the minute, and it feels like what started as PMS for a few days just before period, has turned into horrendous moods and crushing fatigue, plus massive cramping, poop issues (sorry, but seriously - what the h*ll?), and feelings of "being weird" for LITERALLY 25 days of the month. I am charting my partner's cycle (she is 47 and into her 5th year of perimenopause. Seriously - if perimenopause were a person I would murder her in cold menstrual blood) and it seems like she has honestly only had 3 TOLERABLE days this month. Yep, tolerable - not even good days. I have found her a vitamin regime that has helped slightly and we have now purchased progesterone cream, due to start this month on day 14. If that doesn't work I just don't know what to do next. No HRT yet - regular periods and we really want to avoid it if we can, although will go down the Bio-identical route if needs be.
We find humour helps, sometimes (there is nothing funny about PM, I know). But there's only so much chuckling you can do when someone cries at Jeremy Kyle or bites your head off because you left the lid off a sweet jar. We need to know that this is "normal" for this phase of life......
Tell me some stories - tell me it's not just "us" going through this mental hell?! : )
No its not just you. I cry at nothing, also have stomach and bowel issues, am incontinent and my body feels totally alien to me. I have visual problems, my sense of smell has altered and been heightened, my taste has been changed, my sense of touch is wierd, my hands and feet feel rubbery and my hearing I have got permanent 'noise' in my ears. Am on HRT and have been on it for 5 weeks and began my first bleed today which I assumed would be light and painless. NO SUCH LUCK! I feel like crap with bad period pain and the bleed is as heavy as my normal periods used to be. Thank god for my man and my youngest son who both hold me when I need it, who laugh and try and keep a sense of humour when I fart like a tommy gun. They are saints the pair of them. They are both begining to understand how easy men have it. Praise god for them. Without them and the others on these forums, I dont know what I would do. Keep your chin up. XXX
Hi Lou ,yes I feel like I’m a mad mental woman I’m 55 and haven’t had a period for 4 months .. my moods range from tearful emotional moments to feeling aggressive, some days in shopping I get a erg to just wipe everything off the shelves ... Peri mental pause has caused me to not even know myself anymore I get really bad health anxieties because how it makes my body feel , I have days when I don’t want to even talk to people my partner is so patient with me which helps so much otherwise I think it would distroy us ... I’m bad tempered most days with life in general , I feel unattractive fat my hair is thinning just hate this rollercoaster I want to just jump off it and be who I used to be fun loving person always used to be laughing ... I have a professional job and work long hours which I get through ok even with the hot flushes that make me feel like I’ve wet myself 🙁my days off I don’t relax and get really down with myself and how I feel ... so to answer your question it’s not just happening to you and it’s a tough ride for both women going through it and men having to witness it xx
Tina, I am seven years postmenopausal(2010), but didn't start having symptoms until 2014. Blurry vision, I just noticed that for the last few months, I haven't been able to wear perfume, and while I was out shopping the other day going down the soap isle it was so heightened I couldn't go down the isle the smell was so strong. Also food doesn't taste as good, it's like my taste buds have been dulled. And let's not mention the rumbly tummy. I get up every morning with a rumbly tummy and nausea like I'm preggers. The gas comes and goes. I can go six months and no gas then the next three months I'm farting so loud it scares my cat and she runs out of the room like a shot! Lol
The tommy gun remark did make me laugh though!
But at some it gets better(so I've been told). I hope it's soon! You are blessed to have your sons!