Ugh...I'm back. I know that perimenopause can cause (or exacerbate) headaches, but I'm on day five of a pretty bad round...the pain seems primarily located in my jaw/temple area, with a band across my forehead....my neck and shoulders feel tense and sore as well...of course, I'm convinced that I've got a brain tumour or am about to have a stroke, but I seem to recall reading that someone (maybe anxiousface) wrote in with a similar complaint about persisent and pretty severe headache....I suspect I'm unconciously clenching my jaw which may be the underlying cause, but I'm still worried....I'm also exhaused as I've not been sleeping well for the last week or so....and my period (if I get one this month) is due to begin any day now....I Googled my symptoms (I know...bad idea!) and now I'm terrified..anyone have any words of wisdom?
Same here i googled mine and came up with a brain tumour that was in April just before i was due to start!
In May i had a breakdown due to anxiety( thinking about all my illnesses). Then i read all my symptoms i found them to be Perimenopause, and today i have it again but not to worry this time! Having my bloods checked in November to confirm levels.
Arggggggh......! It's all a nightmare. I find a stiff gin n tonic helps :-) xx
Now weary Kitty stop worrying yourslf to death, your headache, jaw clenching neck stifness is all peri/meno related, I have all this over the past week or so, have had to keep taking Anadin Extra and sudafed to relieve the symptoms. 
I don't know why it's like this but it is! I clench my teeth together like crazy while sleeping, thinking of visiting the dentist s he can make me a m shield?
I think relaxation is the answer myself, hot baths, if yourcky enough to have a loving husand get him to massage your shoulders, and dare I say it (as I'm not getting any) LOL 
SEX, it's a gat stress reliever,
Take care of yourself poor Kitty 
mines currently sat on the window sill washing herself, she's a darling thing
Mrs M xxxx
Hi Weary
you need to relax. And stop worrying ..
your making yourself feel ten times worse ..
jay x
Hi wearykitty. i know what your going through cos im the same. Had really bad headachs the whole of sept. Im not too bad now so i no longer worry im going to have a stroke or got a brain tumour cos id be worse by now. I know you feel its never going to go, iv had a new computer screen at work, had the lights changed, bought new pillors,stopped using perfume, cut out caffine cheese and choc and they made no difference and i found no painkillers worked. Im so sorry for anyone going through these headaches and neck and shoulder pain cos its just relentless. Thinking of you and hope it clears soon hun. Sorry i have no magic cure but like jay says try to relax . Xx
Hi sound like tension ask your dentist if you grind your teeth they can tell if so that gives awful pain in the jaw head mouth . Just s thought.
Oh, I know Jay.....I'm my own worst enemy. It's just that whenever a new symptom appears I get nervous....this is all so much worse than I expected. Thanks for listening 
Thanks, anxiousface.....I knew you'd understand....I just want to go to bed and stay there until this all goes away.....none of the painkillers I've tried have helped either....ugh.
I like your solution!!!!! I'll let my poor boyfriend know that he's going to have to "help" me!! 😊
Hi anxious face 😃
it is awful i know, and like you say, we have to relax as stress makes you tense and it all feels so much worse..
i totally understand what a anxious time it is all these feelings and aches and pains and migraines and goodness knows what..
anxiety is the worst and was for me, then we let our minds run away with ourselves and you must not do this .. Its peri menopause thats it..
( unless the doc tells you different )
but i can tell you i have had the lot over the ten years of my peri and in the end you have to boost up on the supplements, and take each day at a time, remind yourself its a transistion, its normal and every woman has it and not be hard on yourself, try and go with the flow, and on a good day just enjoy it .. on a bad day just do what you can..
dwelling is a devil and i know this all too well.
be kind to yourself, and switch off from it as much as you can
it gets better hun..
Jay xx
Weary
we all understand hun and we are here to help you
talking and sharing is great and we all going through it ..
i am now post meno and it does get better ..
positive ... Be positive ... 😃
jay xx
I think when women are peri menopause and post menopause it should be the law that we have a daily massage by a big blonde male massuese 😊
who visits daily and heals our aching knotty pains and makes us all relaxed.
but before he leaves he pushes the hoover about and washes the pots 😃
sorted ..
jay xx
That's hilarious Bubbins (love that alias by the way)
However Miss B I've found that alcohol makes me feel just awful now and after being a regular wine drinker I have knocked it on the head,
Strange but some things I used to do, eat etc just don't do it for me anymore, and I don't always feel hungry either, not moi as I used to be ravernous periodically throughout the day, this isn't helping me to lose the ilbs though and may not be good for you either.............................
Hey Ho go with the flow
and enjoy your G & T's hun
Mrs M xxx
Hi Jaynee,
how about that guy from Sex in The City, he dated Samantha, what a hunk
The only problem being I'de have to make myself look nice for him and seeing as that is such a major task these days I'de settle for a homely house husband any day 
I do so enjoy our talks,
have a great evening and keep laughing, great stress reliever too eh xxx
But it really does help just knowing that your not going mad and there are other women feeling the same too, that helps me so much....................
Mrs M xxx
Well thanks for the comment..
so we need to do some re thinking as well as a massuese he must also be able to make us look beautiful .. And ideally also a hairdresser ..
and nifty with the iron 😃 i have a pile of ironing .. But i am not looking at it ..
hehehehehehe
Jay xx
Hi Mrs M
yes its a tonic to know your not alone for sure ..
we all support each other and its so precious ..
infact i just had a treat .. A small bag of Revels Nom Nom
havent had them for ages ..
and spanish chocolate is all Milka or Nestle .. Yak
thats why Jay went to Iceland 😃
jay xx
Don't mention chocolate, having previously stated that I don;t feel hungry much I could eat chocolate till it comes out of my ears
I can't keep it in the house before Christmas or Easter or I eat it 
before I can wrap it up for prezzies and have been known to actually unwrap them again to devour the contents 
Chocolate MY VICE, it hugs my tummy
Revels, I'll be dreaming about them later LOL
A bientot
hi Mrs Merm
your making me smile as i also love Choc ..
also craving choc can be a sign you need magnesium you know ..
I take the Solgar Chelated magnesium now as before the other oxide and citrate was making me leg it to the loo in the mornings .. But now i am fiine ..
Chelated Magnesium doesnt upset your tum and doesnt have laxative side effects ..
and .. The choc cravings have died off alot .. Thank goodness ..
i am laughing as my other half always brings quality street tins back for xmas and i go mad as i know i will eat them .. but now the choc cravings have subsided so i am pleased ..
jay xx