Please everyone , i need your opinions to help me get rid of this problem

[anon53727290]

Hi everyone i hope you're doing well , can someone please help me

i only need a good comparison or a way of thinking to get me move with my life ,a way of thinking that you could have thought  of and i did not.

i've always been happy my entire life , untill when i had a panick attack about almost 3 years ago , after that i got anxious and little depressed because they were new feelings for me

happily , i did found my way since many many months ago , i faced and solved my problems , understood how to beat the anxiety trick (total life changment and re-gained my old happy confidednt self)

The problem now is that we moved to a new house (me and my family) and it happened to be in the time where i was still traumatized and stuck in anxiety and bad feelings.

The first 2 months that i lived in this NEW house , i was still in the worst part of my life 

I ASSOCIATED bad feelings with this house . Jjust like a perfume that reminds someone of a bad breakup with a partner and he wants to get rid of it , same thing for me with this home.

Even if had also many good moments , but THAT bad BEGINNING , i just couldnt forget it ,so i never accepted staying in this house.

I explained to my parents this but they didnt accept to move from this house

Im feeling low because its been a long time that i have decided  not do any new major event or actions in my life untill i move out of this house

=> i think this way because i'm afraid and dont want to remember that the BEGINING of a NEW major event of my life took place in this house , and if i were to remember it in the future i would feel very bad 

if it happened in our old house i would  totaly accept it and that's because it would have happened in the middle

not at the BEGINNING of living in the house , just like life , sometimes we fall down in life and we continue

all of that makes sense to me , my problem is because it happened at THE BEGINNING 

this may seem stupid for you but it is very important and it effects me alot

i only need a different way of thinking that would make sense to me

Can someone help me what to do or How to think diferently about this beginning obsession ,

anyway to view this thing differently ? 

 

[nh_user_984978]

Can you talk with a therapist about this to get to the root of the problem.   Thay can help.   You may also need a antidepressant to help also..  

[nh_user_1027777]

Hello! I remember my mom about everything you say. She also has depression up until now and she thinks of our house with bitterness from the past. But the things she think of is when we were complete as a family that it pains her to remember everything.

I don't know exactly how you feel because I am not the one who has this condition but it is also a pain to see your mom looking back through the past. It is also hard to convince her fully to look into the bright future but she agrees half-heartedly.

I know the things I would say to you might not help. But here are my point of views to get over the things. Whatever happened in the past will only stay in the past, the remnants of it are just things that will remind you have overcome them. I believe you are truly a happy and strong person.

I would recommend to change the way of how they will affect you(if it's possible). You can't change the past so you can only change yourself, how you will take things (especially in the long run). Example, you said a scent will make you remember of something from the beginning (a bad one), shrug it off quickly before it will take over you. Try replacing those thoughts to the stronger you now.

Don't let these bad thoughts/ memories let you down. You may not eliminate them but you can outsmart them. You get to control what you think and what you feel. The past are all lessons that you will carry in the future. They will make you stronger so you will not be shaken easily.

Bad events happen and where/ when it took place may affect you. You're right "First impression is last." Don't think too much of the past, I tell you. Plan for and think for the future. Dwelling on the past doesn't do anything good, especially the bad ones.

I would love to hear from you! You are strong and you can take over the beginning of that obsession. Love lots!