I’ve been trying so hard for a little while now, I’ve been in a new therapy course, but i know and have done it all before, I thought maybe it was different. I gave it up and stopped going because the energy and hard work it took me to get there was hard enough and after around 6 weeks I realised I wasn’t going to learn anything new. So I’ve tried to help myself, tried to force myself to be a little more happier and it’s kinda worked sometimes but never a whole day, and now my drinking to dull the pain and thoughts has gotten worse so I’m not even sure now which problem I should tackle first, if any! As I am weak!
happiness is an option ..
it's something you seek for in life , working hard to reach it .
the therapy course wont change you life unless you change it and you change the way you see it , its not an art class they wont draw a happy smile on your face and you will wake away happy .
find a hobby or a reason to be alive for and you will reach your goal in life .. this is away to find happiness
Happiness is an option? I appreciate you replying to my post but If you truly believe that then I’m not entirely sure why you’re on this forum? X
you know what I spend 5 years of my life waiting for sth to happen
waiting to get that super model body that I forgot that I have to stop eating and move my ass to the gym to reach it ...
spend the pass year waiting for the job and I didn't even bother to search hard for it !!
the form of happiness can be different from a person to another .. for a kid a chocolate and a toy will make them happy and for a homeless person a cozy home and good meal will make them happy ..
so knowing what can make you happy is an option by searing for what define your happiness or what will make you happy and work for it but you know what is the real problem that we get waiting for more
like I didn't want to live alone being with someone will get me happy and now am married and am still searching for more like now like I work two hours in the gym to reach that Instagram body ,
and trying to reach other stuff .
Hey there. Sorry to hear about what is going on for you, forcing yourself to be happy or put on a brace face is very hard! Find some comfort in the fact you are strong enough to have carried on through all the troubled times. I would like to offer a few things that have worked for me - I found a hobby but one that was productive (I like looking up herbal remedies and vitamins to see what each does in the body) I've ended up with a vitamin cabinet and a whole lot of herbal teas but I find it's something different I can focus on and there are ones you can take for happiness! 😊 Try to stay away from the drink, but that will be hard. It will be important to keep yourself busy. I had a gambling problem and read Allen Carrs easy way to stop gambling - I literally stopped straight away it was unbelievable you could read his alcohol book? Keeping busy with things that make you happy is important, Is there a sport you enjoy (or used to enjoy?) that you could find a social team? I really hope you are okay and happiness is not a choice it's a lot of hard work - and sometimes it's just not going to be possible but that's okay we're only human.
The fact you managed 6 weeks is amazing in itself & something I know I couldn't manage right now so well done. I know the drinking is bad & adding another problem but we all have our ways of coping & although it's not a healthy option at least you know it's something you need to change & you will when you feel ready. Just focus on one thing at a time don't overload or put too much pressure on yourself. Take your time x
farah - so in other words you were just lazy. The things you have listed are aesthetics, a chase for the "perfect" whatever, and having attained them, you're still chasing. In a depressed state, those things are rather irrelevant. The Depressed person seeks to get out from under a persistent dark cloud that hangs over them. It's more serious than what your reflection looks like. "Happiness" is particularly elusive.
dondons - I posted on your other thread asking how you were since I hadn't read anything from you in a while. Hang in there and try to cut back on the booze.