Problems with anxiety

Hi guys,

I’m experiencing this weird thing lately then I’m too anxious to breath in anxious moments. Lately things aren’t go so well, because of negative experiences outside my house. I have generalized anxiety which is at his highest outside. It’s really a struggle, because after a negative experience it makes it even harder to get back at it and I’m really worrying about myself that again it went bad.

Okay, this thing about breathing I am not really familiar with and it is something that I didn’t really experience in the past, at least I wasn’t aware. In stressful and anxious moments I’m too afraid to take a breath. It’s like the opposite of a hyperventilation, but the only similarity is that the breathing pattern has a lot of hitches. It happens when I feel very uncomfortable in my surrounding and it triggers a lot of anxiety. When I’m for example walking out of the place it’s a bit less, but it has triggered panic which isn’t really less. Any tips for this? I tried breathing exercise in public, but I’m in such a panic that I don’t always have the focus on it.

Another question. My anxiety is now to high to go to the hairdresser. It’s a too big of a step for me atm. It sound silly, but it’s a big deal. Because of a massive panic attack I had in the hairdresser I created massive anxiety to take the step to go inside. How can I deal with such a negative experience and have a positive mind? I wonder what you guys do if this happens to you. I even thought of a hairdresser which can cut me at home, but I’m thinking that I’m a idiot if I do so.

I’m such a thoughtful person, I hate it. It’s something I created as a self defence meganism. It belongs to me now, but I wish I was just a little bit less aware. It’s that I have such a low self esteem that I can’t let it go. I don’t know what to do with it, but this is my main problem.

i feel,for you as i know im going through it too. i now have had to get hairdresser to come to my house. going out is a struggle. i have no interest in anything anymore. anti deps dont work, are you using one? Dr says its anxiety disorder and given me buspirone. it is making me feel strange but seems to work for some. why not ask dr

I’m sorry for you that you’re in the same situation. It’s really tough. How long are you in this situation if I may ask? And what do you do daily, because sitting at home and being anxious puts you in a pattern where don’t know what to do anymore. It’s getting harder and more frustrated the longer you’re in the situation.

I had a psychologist for 3 years and started with it at the moment things went bad. Unfortunately she gave up and I’m now completely clueless what to do. I’m waiting for a more specialist one on anxiety, but I may have to wait for 5 (!) months on it.

Taking medicine has been such a struggle for me. Everything I take what does something on my mind gives me extreme anxiety, examples; coffee, sugar, alcohol, ssri etc. I did take fluoxetine, but on a very little dose. A higher dose gave me hallucinations.. I stopped with it after 6 months. Now after a year I took the step to take Valerian herb where I had in the past bad experience with. Due of my aunt where I was for a while she calmed me down and I wasn’t so anxious at all. The first days the effect was pretty strong and it almost made me feel high. Not the effect I was looking for, but at least my anxiety was less. Now 2 weeks later, the effect isn’t as strong anymore. Again, this gave me the conclusion that it’s all inside my head, but it’s not as easy to turn the knob around and think and be the person like you would in the ideal world.

Good luck and I hope to hear from you.