I’m not really sure if I have to ask a question, or if i’m simply able to just vent. I’ve been sexually active since the age of 15, and I’ve had more than a few partners and I’ve always made it a point to protect myself and get tested yearly. I’m 18 and I was recently infected with genita herpes, something I thought I’d never have to deal with. My heart is broken, I’m completely devastated. The person who infected me was aware he had oral herpes, performed oral sex on me and gave my genital herpes. When I first confronted him about it, he acted like it was me, that I already had it and there was no possible way he gave it to me. I’m angry and I’m so sad. I’ve taken every precaution possible to keep myself safe when it comes to sex and I’m absolutely devastated. I just found out a day ago, and I’m still in shock. I had a feeling I had it, for girls/women who aren’t sure if they have it, for me it started with an ulcer/canker sore than wasn’t necessarily painful, just itchy. The next day I had another sore, which is when I started to worry. Of course I did what everyone else does and started to google my symptoms...genital herpes. I was able to keep myself calm because it didn’t burn and it wasn’t painful to use the restroom, then the third day came and I had a lump on my groin and I was convinced that I had genital herpes. I went to the doctor the next day and she immediately confirmed my fear. I feel lost and confused. I suffer from depression already and this has completely brought me down to a level I didn’t think I could possibly get to. I’m hanging on to life by an extremely thin thread and at this point I just really want to give up. How do I live a normal life? How do I have a normal sex life again? This feels like a bad dream and I’m just waiting to wake up.
I was the same situation as you were just a few weeks ago. It doesn't feel like it now but it does get better. The hard part is to realize that you are stuck with it. I'm not real sure how to explain dating because I haven't started yet. From most of my reading, condoms and dental dams reduce chances but do not completely rule out spreading it to a partner. This does not change who you are as a person. You were just dealt a bad hand and have to learn how to play it best. I haven't tried yet but am leaning towards trying the positive dating which is for people positive with STD's including what we have. Once again, I know it doesn't feel like it, but time does heal wounds and reading these forums help you at Lea understand you are not alone or the only one dealing with this. Good luck. Hopefully my words helped even if just a little bit.
Its not the end of the world, check things out before hand next time, you can also take Valtrex once a day to prevent transmission to an unifected partner, speak to your Doctor about it, and always keep some on hand because you never know when you will have another out break, each out break lasted three weeks avoid being with anyone till its healed. hope this is some help to you.
Omg yes I completely understand everyday I just want to give up I’m in love with my current boyfriend and I’m going to have to let him know